Early Detection For Alzheimer's Disease

I believe wholeheartedly in early detection for Alzheimer’s Disease. Knowing what you are facing, having time to come to grips with it is so helpful in the long run. Exercise, diet, drugs, good doctors and support groups, family members are invaluable. I know, I’ve been there. Now I can sit back and reflect on these issues without the emotional baggage that comes with waiting, and waiting and waiting.

Being aware, being prepared is so helpful, especially in the beginning stages.

How do I know. I was there. My husband received this diagnosis, we had to keep it a secret because he was still working, still a highly functioning individual. I kept a secret journal, which I published later as Behind The Mask by Helene Moore, so someone could actually stand in the caregivers shoes for a little while and understand the anger, emotional highs and lows, the internal thoughts that go through a caregivers mind. And also some of what goes through the patients mind. ( Howard’s diagnosis was changed seven long years later)

Because of Behind The Mask, I have become a supporter of caregivers, giving speeches, talking about it to anyone I meet, my email buddies and here on my blog.

Look around your community, where you live, work, play, go to school, or social clubs, golf, etc. there are caregivers in your neighborhood. Connect with them, send them an email, become their friend. Do not judge, just be there, stand in their shoes for a moment and help them get on with their life It only takes a few moments to send an email. Please give something back.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Make The Best Out Of Every Day

Life is short! Live each day with gratitude, love, and balance. And also plan for the rest of your life.

I’ve decided to put some more balance in my life. A little less time checking my stats on the computer, and more time reading, knitting and commenting on other blogs that I love to read.

Helping others, sending less jokes and talking more on the emails about what is going on in my life, and asking about their life.

Looking around my new community and finding caregivers and talking to them, asking how to help. Looking for contacts in Irvine to connect to people who are looking for speakers. I’d like to support all caregivers, but I need help.

If you don’t know what a new caregiver is feeling, read my secret journal written during the time my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and we were advised to keep this diagnosis a secret. Behind The Mask, by Helene Moore is available on this website and also on Amazon.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you. Just send an email, offer to be their friend, listen without judging, just be there.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Good Day/Bad Day

I had a very good day today. Felt good, did a lot of things that needed doing and I finished some old projects. I even started looking through my knitting so I could get started again doing something I love that happens to be so relaxing.

The bad part of the day was getting some bad news. A friend died today, alone in her apartment. She will be missed.

To all of you out there, remember each day has it’s good and not so good parts, but your attitude about them will help you through the bad times.

Do your best to make each day a memorable and wonderful day. Write your grateful list. Go out and Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Happy Anniversary

Today is our 57th Anniversary! And we are still smiling. Our life together has been an extraordinary one, something I take pride in. We taught the example to our children by living the example. I am so happy to report that my children and grandchildren have learned much from our example.

We moved back to California because of family and we are basking in the love of family around us. Good times and bad times call for family. We will always be there for each other.

Today’s grateful list includes my special card, the sun came out, we shopped, we had lunch with our daughter, I went to the bookstore (one of my favorite things to do)  I am reading Lisa See’s new book, Shanghai Girls, and it’s very well written, and interesting. I do recommend this book.

If I didn’t read so much, I’d get more writing done, but it’s okay. I’m giving myself pemission.

Be good to yourself, take a day to just enjoy being you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Get Organized

I need to get myself organized. I thought I was doing such a good job, and now I’m far behind again. Too many emails to answer, papers that need to be worked on and getting pushed aside every day for a week or two. Not a good idea.

Instead of beating myself up over things that weren’t getting done, I made a list of all I accomplished in a day. Well, and good, I got a lot done, but the other things are still getting pushed behind.

I need less Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue days, and more good days of getting plenty of sleep and able to function as I should. Fibromyalgia takes away many days from my life. My attitude has been very good about it, but sometimes when too many bad days come in a row, I wish it were different.

Caregivers don’t have that option. Their job is 24/7 no matter how lousy they feel, or how little sleep they get at night. They function without complaining, doing the job that was thrust upon them. No choices here.

But you have choices. Look around your neighborhood, your own community and find the caregivers. Send them an email, become their friend. Put yourself in his/her shoes and if you can’t, order my book, Behind The Mask. It’s my secret journal written during the seven years I was a caregiver. Experience for yourself, the emotions and thoughts that go through a new caregiver’s mind. Behind The Mask inspired me to start my Adopt A Caregiver journey.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

I Lost Tonight's Blog

I have no idea what I did, but I lost tonight’s blog.

I was writing about Journaling, and about tips for writing memoirs.

Let me see if I can reconstruct what I wrote, since I do not use notes.

Journaling. Just write whatever comes to mind, phrases, about your day, your goals, what you are grateful for, anything that comes into your mind.

Memoirs, also keep it simple. One of the easiest ways to start a memoir, is to write it as a letter.

Dear —-, Remember when we, or, I wanted to talk about the time, or, this is so hard to talk about that I thought I would write to you, or, the most traumatic time of my life was when.

Keep it simple. Another way of doing memoir is to write out simple phrases in 10 year increments in your life. Mine would read something like this:

10 years old: we moved away from family and friends, it was 1941 and the war had just started and my father needed a job.

20 years old. I got married….

By the time I was 30, I had three children.

At age 35, we went through a personal bankruptcy

by age 50, we had restarted and sold our business, and moved to N.Y.

Using mind maps, like the branches of a tree, or look online for Mind Maps, and fill them in. Just keep it simple. It’s an easy way to start.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene Moore

Moore Writing Prompts

Yesterday’s prompts were off the top of my head.

These are  a few more of my prompts:

“The news wasn’t good

She heard the commotion

Point that camera somewhere else

She sky was ablaze

The experience left her shaken

Where had that crazy thought come from?

The door crashed ope, “Police.”

Memories are forever but”

I encourage caregivers to write, either in a journal, or on a scrap of paper to vent. Phrases work, or long sentences, or a few words. Journaling is a powerful, healing tool for good health. Caregivers need this kind of support.

There are caregivers in you own community. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you. An email will work, build up some trust, and become his/her supporter.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Writing Prompts

I love doing writing prompts. I must have well over 500 of them and would love to put them into an ebook, but I don’t know how. Yet.

Maybe I’m just trying to jumpstart my own writing.  Here are ten of my First Lines.

1. Why don’t you just spit it out; it’s what you want to do.

2. The mainteance guy came up and did everything I asked; and then some.

3. He looked like a cat burgler, dressed in black; then he lunged at me.

4. My life story in writing is anything but dull.

5. Icy fingers of fear crawled up his neck

6.”Not now, I’m busy,” then she turned and saw the gun pointed at her heart.

7. The sea sparkled as the sun sunk it’s yellow gold circle into the horizon.

8. The leaves of the tree danced in the breeze and then lightening stuck.

9. The report dragged on, but she only wanted the bottom line, so why were they drowning her in paper?

10. Her grandson was her pride and joy, but he didn’t deserve it.

I hope some of you out there will run with one of these lines and make it into a story or essay or poem. Perhaps I will periodically write some more of them here later on.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver in your own community. Bless you. Don’t know how a new caregiver feels, read my secret journal, Behind The Mask, published last year.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Not A Great Day

Not feeling so great today, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. Tried to nap, and couldn’t fall asleep. Feeling better now. Seems mornings are not so great for me. I used to be a morning person.

Looks like the family isn’t getting tired of us .. I’m so glad.

I’ve been procrastinating about doing several tasks. I think I’d better do them tomorrow. Along with emails that I owe to some people, including my Adopt A Caregiver friends.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing, Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

My grateful list for today: The sun did come out, we had dinner with my daughter, her daughter and husband, Howard and I had a restful day, nether of us felt like doing very much, I’m grateful that we can do that if necessary. I’m grateful that I can write my blog, talk about Adopt A Caregiver, I feel blessed to have readers who come back to read my blog every day and I thank them from the bottom of my heart.

More of my writing can be found on www.anthemauthors.com

Behind The Mask/Adopt A Caregiver

I published my secret jounal, Behind The Mask, because I thought it might help other caregivers going through the same kind of days and nights I was going through. The truth is though, Behind The Mask, is the touchstone for Adopt A Caregiver. Somehow, it was Bershert! Meant to be.

There are caregivers in every community. Where you live, work, play, go to school, golf, play Mah Jongg, Bridge social club, churches and synagogus. All those places are communities. Caregivers in these communities need our support and that’s how Adopt A Caregiver started.

All you have to do is look around your neighbohood, find that caregiver, send an email, and offer to be his/her friend. Explain that even though you never stood in their shoes, you are trying to help and that you will continue to stay, even if everyone else leaves.

Alzheimer’s isn’t contagious, yet caregivers are usually left alone after a long time of illness. I imagine all caregivers go through this. Please, it only takes a few moments, send an email, be their friend, encourage them to vent, to write about their experiences, to ‘get it out’ and please tell them you will not judge them; for you have not stood in their shoes.

That’s another reason I published Behind The Mask, so you could stand in the caregivers shoes for a little while and better understand the emotions locked in the mind of the caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene