My Grateful List For Today

I am grateful for my husband whom I adore, for my family, friends, for my health such as it is at my age. I am grateful for my love of books, writing, journaling. Pictures, sunshine, friends, food, chocolate kisses, music and movies.

I am grateful that I will be a great grandmother the end of November, we are waiting for that little girl with great excitement.

I am grateful for my clean apartment, for my food, my love of eating, or being able to eat a special treat, doing something just for me, and I am grateful just to be me.

A red pen, colored paper, fast writing, 10 minute practice writing, notebooks, the computer, learing new things, commenting on other blogs, for these things that I’m able to do, I am grateful.

I am grateful that I write my husband a letter often to tell him how wonderful he is and how much I love him, I am grateful that he writes me love notes back..every day.It only takes little things to make me happy. I am blessed.

I love being able to give back and I hope you all will support caregivers like I do.]

Adopt A Caregiver in your community, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Forgiveness

Forgiving starts with youself. You must forgive yourself before you can forgive others. How do I know, from my own experience of course. I would beat myself up on days or weeks or months that I didn’t write, made excuses, too tired, not enough time, too busy, too many other things to do. Okay, so what. But I beat myself up about it. Until I realized I was becoming negative. No more, I give myself permission not to wite, or to write, whichever the case may be.

Is there someone you can’t forgive? Someone who hurt you over and over and over? I’ve been there too. It took me years and years until one day, I sat down and wrote him a letter. I poured my heart out for about 20 minutes, put the pen down, and realized all these years later how much power over me that I had given him. He wasn’t worth it. I put the letter into a drawer and I forgave myself for hating him. He no longer has power over me.

Forgiving someone should make you feel better. Do it your way. Journal, write a letter, burn it, mail it, do whatever with it, but in the end, forgive.

The negative energy it takes to hate someone saps you of your strength, your joy, your self.

Start a grateful list and list 100 things that you are grateful for, then do 100 more. I know you can, it only takes little things to make me grateful.

Tomorrow, I will give you a list of things I’m grateful for. You might laugh, but just think about what makes you happy.

What also makes me happy is supporting caregivers. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Where Were You

“Where were you when I had no one to talk to, when I needed to vent, when I needed a shoulder to cry on?

Where were you when I tried to smile and couldn’t?

Where were you when I was too depressed to function?

I needed you, but you were of with friends and clubs, too immersed in your activities to think of mine.

Where were you when I needed you, and everyone else deserted us?”

This is what I left out of my book, Behind The Mask because I thought it might be too brutal. But this is how caregivers feel.

This is what I want to change, and why I want everyone to Adopt A Caregiver. Plant my seed and let it grow by word of mouth. Together we can make a difference, one by one by one.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

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Time

Time flies, we have so much to do each day. Little things get left undone. Maybe I speak for myself, but as I have aged, I find it takes more time to get ready in the morning, more time to put make up on, since I need a magnifying glass to see with, longer to make and eat breakfast and so goes the day.

But, I do stop myself during the day. I stop and think about how grateful that I am to be around all my children and grandchildren, and that they still want to be around me.

I stop and think about all the people who have to work and take care of others.

I think about caregivers all the time. I think about something that I wrote, but did not include in my book, Behind The Mask. Some thought it was too harsh. Maybe.

Maybe not.

Come back tomorrow and I will write that passage here in the blog.

Yes, I think about caregivers. I have stood in their shoes. Everyone needs to stand in the other persons shoes before making any judgments about them.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

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Taking A Weekend Off

I’m taking the weekend off. Recharge, renew, regroup. I hope. Maybe I need a break. I know I have no energy, my eyes hurt, I’m tired and all I’m doing is eating. I need a break.

My grateful list remains full though. Family is close, we are loving living here and next week I will be talking to my first contacts for Adopt A Caregiver. That makes me smile.

So I’m wishing everyone a healthy happy uneventful weekend and I will talk to you next week.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver in your community and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.  Helene

Dear Caregiver

Dear Caregiver,

If only you could find a few minutes to sit down and journal. No one has to see what you wrote, just jot down some feelings.

I feel angry today

No one understands what I’m going through

Why can’t I find some alone time, time to think, to rest, to talk to other people,

If only I could, I would

If I could have one wish granted it would be

If you are angry at God, say so, if you feel God can help you, say so

Don’t forget about your grateful journal, what are you grateful for? It’s always the little things that count.

Today I am grateful that

Write some affirmations, such as, I am strong, and I will get through this. I am capable of doing what I have to do.

I hope someone will adopt me.

Maybe someone will read about my blog and about my Adopt A Caregiver vision.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Cataract Surgery

Yes, my husband needs cataract surgery. The doctor wants it done soon. So, August 8th is the date.

I just need new glasses, as my eyes have really changed. I’m grateful that I can read, write, see, drive, and do anything with my eyes that I want. I feel so bad for people with low vision. Missing the spectacular colors of nature, the people you love whose faces are blurred, I have empathy.

You need to stand in someone’s shoes and feel their emotions and then have empathy for them. Listen to what they are saying, really listen, without interrupting.

Especially to caregivers. Their work is never over. Some of them can’t get out to a support group. All it takes is an email to a new caregiver in you community. Be a friend, listen, don’t judge, have empathy, it’s a wonderful way to give something back. The caregivers need anything we can help them with.

Don’t know what it’s like to stand in the caregivers shoes? Read Behind The Mask by Helene Moore. It’s my secret journal that I finally published after they changed my husbands diagnois from Alzheimer’s Disease to Age Associated Memory Impairment. I never expected to let others see my writing, I put my guts into it, but if it helps someone it was the right thing to do.

My book, Behind The Mask, has helped people. Believe me, I have written thank you’s about how it helped others. That means so much to me.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Good Day

I had a good day today. The eye doctor said my cataracts aren’t ready yet, but I do need new glasses. Fibromyalgia affects my eyes also, that is a fact that not everyone is aware of. Light, noise, the immune system, inflammation, all play a huge part for anyone with Fibromyalgia.

I connected with an old writing friend today, and that made me very happy. We are going to meet next week. We have missed each other, we used to meet every week and critique each other’s writing. Maybe we can start that up again.

All in all it was an easy day today. The drops in my eyes kept me home thinking my glasses were dirty. But now, my vision is fine.  Tomorrow is my husband’s turn with the eye doctor. I don’t think he will get off as lightly as I did. We will see.

In the meantime, my grateful list grows and I hope yours does also.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Short Week

This will be a short week for us. Both my husband and I have an eye doctor appointment, one on Monday, the other on Tuesday. My husband has physical therapy twice this week for balance problems and we are going away for the weekend.

My eye doctor appointment is tomorrow.

It’s been a great family weekend. I love it.

I am thankful for this opportunity to be so close to my children and grandchildren.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Feeling Grateful

All the doctor’s reports have been good, and for that I am grateful. I am glad we moved back to California to be near our kids and grandkids, so i’m grateful for that. I’m grateful that we are going to be great grand parents the end of November.

I’m grateful that I don’t get bored. I read, knit, watch a movie on tv. and pretend I’m writing. I’m grateful when I am in a writing mood and get something worthwhile done. At my age, I’ve got to get moving.

Moving, that’s the one thing that’s hard for me. The Fibromyalgia has slowed me down, as has my sleep pattern, but I’m grateful for my good attitude that allows me not to brood or get depressed. I’m grateful for every day, all the sunshine, my husband who thinks I’m the greatest, even though I tell him, “I’m only me.” and he says, “That’s all you have to be.” I am so grateful he still looks at me with love in his eyes, and that we are really ‘two halves of a whole, while each retaining our own identity’ I said that once on national television, and it’s so true.

I’m grateful that someone, anyone, reads my blog, comments on it or not. I’m grateful just to be, each and every moment is precious and not to be missed.

Yes, I am grateful.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene