Making Mistakes

We all make mistakes. This week I’ve been full of them. Some of them have been frustrating, humiliating, and others I have learned that you can learn from your mistakes.

I failed the written driving test the first time around, and felt foolish and humiliated. I had to rip out several parts of the sweater I’m knitting, and that was frustrating. A lot of stitches to rip out and put back on the needles the correct way. Very time consuming, but I learned what I did wrong. At least I hope I did.

We all make mistakes, if we didn’t make mistakes, we aren’t making any decisions. And that’s a bad thing. In one day we make many decisions, about what to make for dinner, to get the paperwork off the desk, to make those phone calls we keep putting off and to cope with the day with a smile on our face.

A smile on our face shows we care, and that we can cope. A smile makes us feel good. So find something to smile about.

I am smiling, I have my first great grandchild’s baby shower on Saturday. It’s a girl. Four generations of women. This child also will have six, yes, six great grandparents! How wonderful.

Stand in someone else’s shoes, and then make the decision, what would you do? You certainly would understand them better. You will feel their pain, their emotions, and have some compassion for what they are going through.

Can’t find someone’s shoes to stand in? Read Behind The Mask by Helene Moore, a secret journal, written when she was a caregiver for her husband. Then seven years later, the diagnosis was changed. Yes, we were the lucky ones. So now it’s time to give back.

I started Adopt A Caregiver, see www.adoptacaregiver.org then help me spread my word, and plant the seeds for everyone to adopt a caregiver. They need a friend.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

Writing Is Addictive

I’ve always known that writing is addictive. The more you write, the more you want to write. Writing in a journal, writing a memoir, writing a story, writing out your goals, lists of things to do, becomes a habit when done every day. And you know what, your writing actually gets better.

My problem: I’ve exchanged writing for knitting. I’ve become addicted to knitting for the new great grandbaby coming the end of November. And then found a few things to knit for myself. Knitting at night with my husband and the tv. on is a good thing.

But, I found that I have missed my writing. And so I want to get back to it. Starting right now. I have missed writing in my journal, and I had started a short story, and only got the first few lines written, and my blog is suffering because I haven’t started my Adopt A Caregiver program here in California. Waiting for the legal issues to be finished. Soon…

In the meantime, I hope you will come back to read my blog because I love writing them. I also hope you look at the website. www.adoptacaregiver.com and help me plant the seeds. Yes, one person can make a difference. And this world needs a difference. Give something back.

Adopt A Caregiver in your neighborhood, and tell them your friend Helene sent you. Just send an email and tell them you’d like to be their friend. You’d like to understand what being a caregiver is and that you know it’s hard.

Read my secret journal, Behind The Mask, and see how this caregiver’s emotions on every page.

Keep love and kisses in you life. Helene

We Have To Be Aware

Since I was mugged in New York in the 80′s, I’m always aware. Aware of who is around me, aware of what is happening with my body, and just aware.

We all need to be aware. Aware of scams, of people trying to take advantage of us, or scaring us in any way.We need to know who our neighbors are, and if they need help, or we need help, we know who these people are.

Be aware of yourself, your body, what is around you, what medicine you take, how you react to others, and how they react to you.

Be yourself. Be helpful, but always be aware.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Visit my website

www.adoptacaregiver.org

Make Every Day A Good Memory

Take each day as it comes, and enjoy it as much as possible. Sometimes we need to jolt ourselves out of depression, a bad mood, an anxious day, a worry day.

Only worry about something you can do, not what comes in the future. Each day has it’s own beginning and it’s own end. Every day is a new beginning.

Go to bed at night telling yourself that tomorrow will be a wonderful day. Something nice is going to happen. Maybe the world will be a little bit better. Maybe we can be more compassionate to those less fortunate than we are.

How we cope, how we react, makes our day. Don’t you want a better tomorrow?

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Words Are Powerful

Words can be powerful. Words can hurt. Words can also heal.

Powerful words inspire, create feelings of peacefulness and harmony.

Words can also hurt. Words can’t be taken back. Think before you speak. Once you have hurled hurtful words at someone, you can’t take them back.

Words can heal. I urge everyone to write down their feelings, memories, their hopes and dreams, their goals, their grateful list, and their affirmations.

When my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease, I turned to my computer and secretly wrote about my emotions, my thoughts, my fears. That journal saved my sanity.

When the doctor changed the diagnosis, I showed Howard my secret journal, and he said publish it.

I did, and Behind The Mask became that book. Please read about how it inspired me to go on and start

www.adoptacaregiver.org

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Support Caregivers

One day you might be a caregiver yourself. Support caregivers, treat them like you yourself would like to be treated.

Caregivers are working 24/7. They are lonely, exhausted, too tired to go out to support groups, and remember support groups are not for everyone.

You need to look around your community, surely there is a caregiver there. All it takes is an email to start a friendship.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Visit www.adoptacaregiver.com

Read Behind The Mask, a secret journal, to know how one caregiver felt. Me!

Vitamin D and Fibromyalgia

I’ve been on a high dose of Vitamin D, prescribed by my doctor for the past 2 months. What happened? I slept during the night. That has never happened before in my whole life. My levels of Vitamin D were the lowest the doctor had ever seen, and when I started taking the D. I immediately slept. Maybe Fibromyalgia doctors ought to look into that. I am totally grateful for this.

Exercise: well, that is going well. Yesterday, met with the trainer and today, I am sore. I didn’t exercise, the first time in two weeks. I should have done something, but the day got away from me. Tomorrow, I promise to do these exercises. I know in the long run they will help me.

Went to the knitting store today. yes, you guessed it, I bought more yarn, to make something for myself.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Things To Do Before I Die

I wrote this almost ten years ago, and it still holds true today.

“Things to do before I die. Now where did that thought com from? It flew into my mind like a tornado and wouldn’t leave. So, lets see if I can come up with some answers.

First of all, assuming I have enough years left, I’d like to continue to sample life, love and family. That’s always my first priority. Then there’s reading, writing, and knitting.

I hope my love of life and learning stays with me forever. I like learning from others, listening, sharing. I like something to do every day, spending time at home and time alone with my thoughts.Spending time with Howard.

I’d like to leave a legacy of love. I’d like world peace. I’d like everyone to take charge of his own life, to share himself with his world and to give something back. I’d like love to be all things to all people”

Yes, it all still hold true to this day. There have been some changes/additions. I have published my book, Behind The Mask, we have moved back to California to be near our family, and we are dedicated to seeing our Adopt A Caregiver grow. You can see what that is by looking at

www.adoptacaregiver.org

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Year Is Going Fast

I can’t believe how this year is flying by. We moved back to California in early May, took care of all the doctor and lawyer and insurance stuff, and here it is the middle of September.

I’ve made a three month commitment to a physical trainer, my granddaughter is going to give birth to my first great grand daughter the very end of November, her shower is in early October and I am busy knitting for that occasion.

Then it’s Thanksgiving and Christmas, and yes, another year will be here. Are you ready? I’m not sure I am.

So, it must be time to work on my commitments, make sure I reach my goals, and still have time for me and my family. So far so good.

But, wishing isn’t working. It takes work and persistent effort to reach goals. Just don’t make yourself crazy.

Remember every day is a new beginning.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Magic In Memories

We were having breakfast with our granddaughter this morning and talking about memories. What she remembered about being with us when she was a little girl. How she feels now that she is pregnant. I reinded her how lucky she was that this brand new baby girl will have 6 great grandparents. That is quite something!

My husband reminded me, as he often does, that no one can take away our memories. He is so right. Memories can be made of magic. They also can be seeped in sadness.

But, the sadness is also part of life and our memories. Life happens, it’s how we cope that counts. Coping isn’t easy, not ever, but we have to be aware and that is part of the key.

Enjoy your memories, talk about them with your friends, kids, grandchildren, you might get a kick out of them.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene