A Tough Question

Sometimes someone asks me a question and it makes me think. What should I answer, what is the right answer I ask myself.

Well today someone made me think.

The question was, “Doesn’t it bother you to hear all these sad stories about caregivers?”

The answer jumped right out of my mouth as I answered, “No, it just makes me want ‘Adopt A Caregiver’ even more. I want to help more. I never thought about it, the words just came out.

As I think about that now, I think that answer was the correct one. It takes a long time for a person to feel safe enough to talk about their situation, and when they do, I pay attention. It’s that important to me.

I feel for every caregiver and I do want to wipe away some of their tears.One by one, word of mouth, we can do it.

November is National Caregivers Month. Lets start now. Find out who in your area is a caregiver. Find out how to get in touch with them. Tell them you understand what they are going through, because a friend of yours shared all her emotions about how it feels to be a caregiver in her book, Behind The Mask. Tell them you want to adopt them, and explain how it works. Be real, be honest, be a friend. A true friend never judges, always listens to the best of his/her ability.

Sometimes in one email you know you have made a friend. I’ve done that this week, and it feels wonderful.

My friend Jeanne and I had lunch today, something we have done since 1993, when Howard was first diagnosed. She was the only person I told in the beginning. I felt safe with her knowing the truth. We met in California, and then we both moved to Las Vegas, and we still try to meet once a week. She agreed with me that a childrens story about Alzheimer’s Disease would be something worthwhile. I’m going to try and find the time to do a story like that. Grandparents are living in the parents home, which makes the child a caregiver also. He/she needs explantions about what is happening to Granny.

I think I have enough to do, and then I always come up with more. I guess that is just the way I am. And I am just me.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene