How I got my caregiver

When my husband Howard was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993, the Alzheimer’s Association insisted we keep it a secret, because Howard was on the Board of Directors of Toys R Us, and doing other consulting. They felt he’d lose his jobs, his friends and he wasn’t ready to do that yet.

In order to smile I started a secret journal, which became my book, Behind The Mask. Keeping it a secret was harder than I expected, and I didn’t know who to reach out to.

I looked at the internet at the caregivers messge boards and I read them all. One day I noticed one message that said, “I need a hug.”

Well, I needed one too, so I read her message, and it seemed to call out to me. I emailed this lady, not using my real name, and the rest is history.

I’m still writing to her, and during one of our trips back east, we stopped and met them and I’m so glad we did. It made me feel so good.

She is one of the most caring human beings I’ve ever met. She has, and still is, devoting her life to her husband. She is one of the reasons I want to start

adopt a caregiver

Her family and friends all have their own families, their own problems, and joys. And my friend is stuck at home, alone most of the time, and my heart cries for her.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene


  1. joe foresman says:

    What a wonderful and touching story. Helene, I give you all the credit in the world for having the guts to write about this period of you and your husbands life.


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