Thankful, Not Judging

Today I am still thankful. Thankful that I was able to meet my friend for lunch, and as I sat waiting for her to arrive I thought about all the caregivers who can’t get out to lunch. What do they do? What keeps them going? What do they do for their mental health?

The first thing most people give up in times like these are important things related to their mental health. Things like massages, therapists, doctor appointments, they let themselves go. Saving money is one thing, but most of us take it to extremes. We forget we need to take care of ourselves, how else can we take care of others?

We need to stop and think what is important for us, for our well being.

And we need to think about all the caregivers. Please help someone who needs you for a friend. If you never stood in their shoes don’t judge them. Remember to have compassion for those who need it. Remember to think about the caregivers who give 24/7 to someone else, and have no time or energy for themselves.

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that last forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Waiting To Hear From You

Every day you hear more and more  younger people are being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Every time my grandson plays soccer and hits a header and is knocked out, I worry. But early diagnosis is a good thing. I strongly advise it. The Alzheimer’s Association, the doctors and the scientists have made great strides in this field. Maybe someday there won’t be any necessity for caregivers.

But that’s the future, and the reality is that there are too many overstressed, overworked, lonely, scared, and depressed caregivers. Lets give them a break. Find a way to communicate with them. Listen, don’t judge, tell them you care, you can email them often, maybe send the a  joke or two to make them smile. It all helps, and one person can make a difference. The rewards are immensely satisfying. Just knowing you reached out to help..has to make you feel ten feet tall.

For all the caregivers out there, hang in there, reach out to us, and let us know you are willing to hear from us. We need your permission.

To all the hospitals, nurses, assisted living places, give us some feedback. I’m waiting to hear from you. Please comment or email me, the link is on my website.

When I was a caregiver, and I wrote my secret journal and then published it as Behind The Mask, I realized that it had a purpose. My book was every caregivers story.

Now my mission is to have everyone adopt a caregiver. It only takes a few minutes of your time, an email once a week or so. As much, or as little as you want.

As for my bits and pieces of my life, I’m still knitting. writing is still a little hard for me, since my finger had surgery, but the doctor told me it would just take some time. So I’m writing on the computer, and I’ve started my new book, Adopt A Caregiver.

Stories told to me with your permission, including my own stories that were not included in Behind The Mask will be included in the new book.  Maybe next time, I will write something here that I wrote during my emotional time as a caregiver for my husband.

We were the lucky ones, he did not get Alzheimer’s, but we went through seven years thinking this is it, it’s happening now. We have no idea what happened, or what it was, I only thank God for our good fortune.

Now I want to give something back; and my adopt a caregiver program is the one thing I will not give up on for the rest of my life.

For you caregivers reading this, take heart, progress is being made every day. Write in a journal, get out your thoughts, anger, despair, little bits of happiness, and the why is this happening to me. Writing it out helps, even if you don’t think so now.

In the meantime I hope to hear from you.]

Behind The Mask is available on my website. I will send a signed copy.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene