Thanks For Giving

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

How?

Adopt A Caregiver! Do you have any idea how much an email will be appreciated. That someone cares about them, is thinking of them. How easy it would be to do nothing.  But, think about the caregiver, someone who is there 24/7 doing whatever they have to do, usually alone most of the time. If the patient has been sick a long time, most of their friends have left, their kids are grown with their own families, and no one calls or visits.

What does it take to send an email. Or to make a phone call? Or to send a card? Or flowers? Or give a gift certificate from your social club for a massage, a haircut, or a lunch out with some friends. This is Thanksgiving week. Please think about my Adopt A Caregiver program. Please think about the caregivers in your community. They are there! Stand in their shoes for a moment in time.

Then go out and Adopt A Caregiver. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

I am leaving in the morning to see my children and grandchildren in California. Hopefully I will be able to write from their house. If not I will be home on Saturday.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. And remember that word of mouth is potent. Please help me plant my Adopt A Caregiver seeds to one and all.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Different Sunday

Got a few things done today, not as much as I wanted. But I want to talk about two things that happeed today, actually it’s three things.

I spoke to a massage therapist today, and we agreed in these tough times, most people give up the mental health things first. Therapists, massage appointments, exercise clubs, things like that. But these are all important to the well being of a person.

Second, David Thomas from www.knittingdoc.wordpress.com has kindly talked about my book on his blog. Behind The Mask is truly every new caregivers story.

Third, someone contacted me today and told me everything I say to you. I love your Adopt A Caregiver program, I wish someone would adopt me. That they don’t get it. She said, and I quote, “Seems inappropriate to be telling people they should be taking care of me, in my fantasy, someone else would suggest to these ‘friends’ that they might be a tad more engaged or in contact. Sigh.”

As someone who already has adopted a few caregivers she knows how much it means for them to hear they are doing a great job, and they are in my thoughts.

See how easy it is. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Waiting For Sunday

I always wait for Sunday. These days it’s usually my catch up day. That means I have to clean up the clutter in my office. I always have too many projects going on at once.

My desk is in it’s usual disarray . There are recipes competing with emails and letters to answer. Websites I want to comment on, questions to ask anyone who knows about links, social networking. It’s all Greek to me.

And my bookshelves. I’m a book junkie. My friend reminded me the word I was looking for was category, when I said I wanted to organize them. But truthfully, I should call them scattergories. For their is fiction, non fiction, novels, books I haven’t read yet, cookbooks nestled next to art books, and the craft of writing books, and the list goes on and on.

When that’s finished, there are the insides of all the drawers and file cabinets. They aren’t in bad shape, because you can’t see inside them.

Then there is my writing. This blog, short stories, memoirs, bits and pieces of writing to be finished, edited, and filed away — or published?

Sorry, I have to leave. I’m going to Office Max and get some new notebooks for all my writing.

I’m going to be making some notes on memoir writing in the next couple of months. Our writing group is going to give a workshop on this subject. I think I will include some of it here, in case any of you would like to try to write your memoir.

Because it’s holiday season, remember the caregiver.

Adopt A Caregiver, and give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Hold My Hand

It’s so seldom that I ever let anyone read my poetry (I only have about seven poems that I wrote) but this is a chance to let everyone see something I wrote when my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease.

Those of you following my blog, will know that the diagnosis was changed. Seven years later.

Anyway, this is the poem I wrote:

“Hold my hand, I need your help

Guide me to the right path

to people and friends I care about.

Hold my hand

I want to know you are with me

sharing my day, my existence.

Hold my hand

I want peace and serenity in my life.

Hold my hand

I love feeling your hand in mine.”

Adopt A Careagiver, give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

(I am putting this up early because my computer is not working correctly. )

Thankful, Not Judging

Today I am still thankful. Thankful that I was able to meet my friend for lunch, and as I sat waiting for her to arrive I thought about all the caregivers who can’t get out to lunch. What do they do? What keeps them going? What do they do for their mental health?

The first thing most people give up in times like these are important things related to their mental health. Things like massages, therapists, doctor appointments, they let themselves go. Saving money is one thing, but most of us take it to extremes. We forget we need to take care of ourselves, how else can we take care of others?

We need to stop and think what is important for us, for our well being.

And we need to think about all the caregivers. Please help someone who needs you for a friend. If you never stood in their shoes don’t judge them. Remember to have compassion for those who need it. Remember to think about the caregivers who give 24/7 to someone else, and have no time or energy for themselves.

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that last forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene