Easier Days

Worked on my writing this morning, that was a great feeling. I really want to finish this book that I’m working on, but I’ve got such a long way to go. Okay, one day at a time.

We went to The Container Store today and ordeed closet organizers. Have to wait abotut three weeks, they are out of stock on some of the drawers we wanted.

Meeting my granddaughter for lunch tomorrow at The District. Should be fun.

There are so many things I want to do, and to learn, but right now, I’ve earned a rest.

It’s also time to call my old friends who live here, and tell them I  am here and want to meet. That will be a fun activity for tomorrow afternoon.

There is nothing else new.

I sold two of my books, Behind The Mask and hope when they finish reading it, they will understand the plight of the caregiver. I also finished the book, Still Alice by Lisa Genova, and she did a superb job with great insight into what thoughts and feelings are present when early onset Alzheimer’s is diagnosed. I strongly recommend this book.

There are new caregivers in your community. Be a good friend, email them, talk to them, just be there for them. They feel so alone and abandoned…

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Earthquake: 4.7 Welcome To California

Sitting in our chairs watching television last night, the whole room started to rattle and shake. It  felt like the whole building was shaking, and believe me those 16 seconds felt like minutes! Welcome to California.  Well, doesn’t matter, I’m here to stay! Family is family, after all and we are closer than ever.

Exciting news: I’ve found a writing buddy. We are exhanging chapters and are reviewing them for each other. Thanks Tamara.

I’m reading a novel called ‘Still Alice’ by Lisa Genova. This book brings back many memories and worries about Alzheimer’s Disease, and about being alone. The caregiver is  alone. That’s why Adopt A Caregiver is so important to me. I can’t wait to get started on making some contacts and speaking to groups, this message is meant to be heard.

There is a caregiver in your community, and he/she is scared, lonely, feels alone and deserted, and is overwhelmed by the responsibilities she has inherited. All it takes is one friend, send an email, explain that you understand/you want to understand, and you will not desert her as so many do. Let her vent, do not judge, encourage her to journal, to open up and talk about what’s on her mind. She won’t want to, but if you stay and become her friend, she/he might open up to you.

If you want to know what it’s like to be in a new caregiver’s shoes, read my book, Behind The Mask, available at Amazon, and on my website. It was my secret journal that I wrote, when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. Because we were the lucky ones, (seven years later, the doctors changed the diagnosis, and today my husband is fine) I’ve decided to spend the rest of my life supporting caregivers.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Long Nap; Still Tired

I took a long nap today, but somehow I’m still tired. I think I need  a week off to recuperate from all the moving process. My body still hurts also.

I’m starting to look for contacts for Adopt A Caregiver. I’m starting to think about that more, now that most of the apartment is finished. I still have to do closet organizers, but that’s a nothing job since the Container Store has organizers that don’t have to be built in. (I’m in an apartment, and they want nothing attached to the walls.)

I’m also starting to think about writing again. It’s about time.

Tomorrow I’m going shopping for shoes with my granddaughter and daughter. I lost my walking shoes? I threw them out? They are somewhere hiding? I have no idea, but my feet are hurting, and I need to look for comfortable walking shoes.

So, all in all, today was a restful day.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Don’t know what a caregiver is feeling, order my book, Behind The Mask and you will see all my thoughts and emotions during the seven years my husband had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Errands and Rearranging

We did a bunch of errands this morning and by the time we came home and put things away it was way past lunch time. I made a salad with turkey breast which was pretty good.

Then I rearranged my kitchen so that things I needed were easier for me to reach.

While we were out, I forgot to buy a local newspaper to find out what’s going on here in Orange County. I need to start a whole new list of contacts for Adopt A Caregiver.

It’s so easy to find someone in your own community who is a new caregiver and just think how much you can help. All you have to do is be an email friend. Care about them, encourage them to vent, to talk, to visit.

My book, Behind The Mask is my secret journal written when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993, and thank goodness, in 2000 the changed the diagnosis. This book gave me the idea of my new journey. Adopt A Caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Getting Done

We’ve accomplished so much since moving here on Thursday. We even relaxed today for a little while. Worked on my office this morning for several hours, then did some much needed errands, came home, ate a very late lunch and I rested my eyes for about an hour.

I have to get back to writing, but .. well, there shouldn’t be a but. I will do some writing tomorrow. I have several thank you’s to write and I have to resume journaling again. I can’t remember the last time I wrote in my journal.

Time to get myself in gear.

Time to start looking in the newspaper and collecting material for Adopt A Caregiver.

There is a new caregiver in your community, look for her/him, and put yourself in their shoes. Can’t do that, my book, Behind The Mask, is a good way to start. Check my website.

Then give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Closet, Paperwork, And AA

Busy day tomorrow, have to start working on packing up my closet. I have neglected paperwork for abot two weeks and have to do it, so I might as well get started on it tomorrow.

The good news is that I have Anthem Authors to go to in the afternoon. That will brighten my day.

Today we went to Costco for food, and then went to U Haul to get more boxes! There are boxes everywhere. But that is progress.

Thanks again to The Bloom Report for that terrific ad for my book, Behind The Mask. My secret journal shows what it’s like to stand in the caregivers shoes.

I’ve started thinking about Adopt A Caregiver again, and I have a whole new city and state to work in. Wow! I am so conscious of all caregivers, and all they go through each and every day, and I know there are caregivers in your community. It only takes a moment to send an email, become their friend, be a supporter. I want everyone to know what Adopt A Caregive is about. It’s so easy. Every community has caregivers, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

I Miss Writing

I miss writing! I miss the thoughts and the ideas that come to me when I’m ready to write. Soon, I hope. Maybe I’ll find a time during the weekend, as I have part of a memoir story I want to write. It’s about the contrast when Howard and I were first engaged, and I met his extended family, and he met my extended family. Huge contrasts.

Over this weekend, I will tackle my closet. The hard part is done. Just have to pack it up. Same with the kitchen, we weeded out a lot of things we haven’t used in years, and what’s left can be packed except for the few pots and pans and dishes we will be using for the next 5 weeks or so.

In the meantime, please support the caregivers in your community. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you. Just write an email, be their friend.

If you don’t know how a caregiver feels, read my secret journal,  Behind The Mask, and stand in the caregivers shoes for a few hours.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Grateful For The Big Things In Life

Husband and family still first. Howard and I have had many big important things happen in our life, and I expect we aren’t through seeing more of them coming our way.

Think about it this way: If we hadn’t done this, hadn’t moved, hadn’t been there when the teacher arrived, etc. Try that trick in your memoir writing.

In my case, if Howard hadn’t been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993, and if I hadn’t started a secret journal that no one knew about, and since we were advised to keep this diagnosis a secret, writing in that journal helped me smile when I was with Howard.

Then seven years later, when they changed the diagnosis to Age Assoiated Memory Impairment, and he was fine I decided to show him my journal. And what did he say when he read it with tears in his eyes, “This is beautiful, this is you, and you have to publish it.”

Behind The Mask was born since I had already had the name ready and I had my granddaughter design the cover I was ready. Wasn’t I? Obviously I wasn’t.  It took me many years, eight to be exact, until my journal became a reality.

If not for the diagnosis, if not for publishing my secret journal, I never would have found my new journey in life Adopt A Caregiver. Life has many twists and turns, but you have to be attuned to them.

I’m devoting the rest of my life to Adopt A Caregiver. I will speak to any group, to any church, to any hospital, to anyone who will listen and I will blog every night about it and what I’m doing at the moment. Every community has caregivers. Find one and give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

And thank you to The Bloom Report and all those who have contacted us. It’s so good to hear from you.

What to Learn From Behind The Mask

Is there anything to learn from my book, Behind The Mask? Yes, by standing in a new caregivers shoes for a few short hours, you will get the whole gamut of emotions I went through for seven years. According to the comments I get, it has changed some lives; it has shown caregivers that they are not alone in their thoughts and their feelings.

Does it matter? Yes. How can you Adopt A Caregiver, if you have no idea what that means. How can you have empathy, understanding, be non judgemental, how can you be a caregivers friend?

After you have read my book, or a different book on the same subject, only then can you know how a caregivers feels, and what she/he gos through every single day.

In your own community, there is a caregiver. Reach out, support that person. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Behind The Mask: Not Included

I wrote something that I didn’t include in my book Behind The Mask. Obviously it was something I was thinking about, maybe even subconsciously. But it was there in my mind and I had to write it out. I didn’t include it in my book, but I will share it with all of you tonight. This is a fiction piece I wrote.

“The Last Dance by Helene Moore

Diana knew this would be an extraordinary night. She took a leisurely bath, filling the tub with scented oils. Vanilla and sweet almond oil mixed with lavender surrounded her with lazy luxury. It had been a long time since she felt so calm.

Lying back in the tub she went over the plans for the coming evening. Satisfied, she stepped out of the tub. Diana knew she was ready. It was time.

She dried and powdered her body with silken scent, then threw a short silk shirt over her naked body. She didn’t tie it; she let it flap around her as she walked across the soft carpet into the bedroom.

There on the bed was her husband, her best friend and lover for 40 wonderful year. Diana climbed into the bed. Tenderly she touched Stuart’s face. His eyes blinked once, she nodded in response. Reaching up she kissed his eyelids, her hands moving down his still body.

She rubbed her breasts along his stomach and reached downward and felt his erection. She looked deep into his eyes and he blinked at her, this time very slowly.

One last dance. Bittersweet. Loving and sensual. One last dance, she’d make it beautiful for both of them. After, when her heartbeat returned to normal, she looked again into Stu’s eyes. He blinked. It was time.

Diana lifted the silken pillow, gently placing it over her beloved’s face. Please God let it be quick.

She lay across his heart, holding the pillow tight. His agony was over. She let her tears drop onto his chest.

The last dance was finished.”

Because this was a fiction piece I wrote, I did not include it in the book. The book was entirely true journal entries.

Remember the caregiver, support the caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene