In 1992, our art collection of kissing couples was shown on Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous.
In 1993 my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease, and the Alzheimer’s Association and UCI ( Ujniversity of California, Irvine) insisted we keep it a secret. So I started a secret journal and poured myself on to the pages. Seven years later, God’s plans changed and Howard’s diagnosis was changed. No more Alzheimer’s. When I showed Howard my journal, he insisted I publish it, and I did as Behind The Mask.
This is what being on God’s roller coaster is like.
I wrote, “What is normal? Is it sitting around the dining room table after Thanksgiving and sending the kids out to play after we ate, and then we discussed doctor assisted suicide and what would happen if there wasn’t a doctor assisted suicide program allowed in my state.”
What is normal? Normal is our lives today. Normal is opening your eyes and seeing all the things we have to be grateful for. For the love we have for each other and our family, our friends, our laughter, and even our tears. Normal is living with hope, gratitude and love. Normal is being us.
After my book was published a light-bulb went off in my head. This book’s purpose was to help caregivers. By reading it everyone would know the emotions all the new caregivers are going through. I know I can’t wipe away all their tears, but I can help them get through the day.
Adopt A Caregiver. I am devoting the rest of my life to make this happen. One by one by one, word of mouth is potent. We can all help. We all know a caregiver. All it takes is an email. Be a friend, and really listen.
Determination, passion, compassion is what I have. I need everyone’s help to get my words out to the community. My community, your community.
I guess I am still on God’s Roller Coaster. Thank God.
Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene