One Thing Leads To Another

It’s always amazing to me to see how one thing leads to another. It could be in writing Memoirs. One memory triggers another and another and before you know it you have written several stories.

In my case, it was my own book, Behind The Mask that led to Adopt A Caregiver. Call it Bershert (meant to be) or call it one thing leading to another. After my book came out, I realized that I wanted to help support caregivers. They need the help as much as the patient does. But, who is going to be there for them?

How many times does someone call and ask, “How is the patient?”

How many times do the ask how the caregiver is doing?

There are more and more caregivers all the time and they could use some friendship and support. I call it giving back.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Beshert (Means Meant To Be)

Once in a lifetime something so immense comes up in your life, you just know it’s meant to be. Beshert. That is what happened to me last year.

In 1993 my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. Not only was it a shock, but we were strongly advised to keep this a secret. Howard was still working, and they feared his working days would disappear.

I started a secret journal and poured myself into it day by day, so that I could smile for him. No one ever saw this journal.

Seven years later, the doctor changed his diagnosis and I felt we were freed from our prison sentence, one a prisoner of his mind, the other a prisoner of his soul.

When I was sure nothing else was happening, I showed Howard my journal. and he said, “Publish this, it’s our love story, and it might help someone else.”

It took me until last year to publish my book, Behind The Mask, and when I held it in my hands, I knew it had a purpose.

Adopt A Caregiver was born on that day. It truly is the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. We all know a caregiver in our community. All you have to do is send them an email and ask to be their friend.Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Anne Frank Said

Anne Frank said, “I want to write, but more than that, I want to bring out all kinds of things that lie buried in my heart.”

Wow, when I was her age, I thought maybe I’d like to be a writer, but who was I to dream that big? No teacher, no parent ever encouraged me, or asked me what I wanted. I was just goody two shoes.

Twenty years ago, while living in New York, a friend of a friend called me and said she would like to see our kissing art collection. I said okay. When she left she said that a book was bubbling in my heart and I should get it out on paper.

Boy, was that food for thought. I had a computer and around Thanksgiving time I thought about writing. I fooled with it, but didn’t know the craft or how to construct the story.

It wasn’t until we moved to California in 1990 that I decided for real that I wanted to learn how to write. So I joined the Orange County Romance Writers Of America and I tried to learn.  I admit it came hard to me, but I had several friends who helped me, and I am still in touch with two of them.

When we moved to Las Vegas, I started Sun City Anthem Authors in February, 2000. That was the best thing that happened to me. I blossomed, I learned and I found that writing from the heart is the only way I can write.

Behind The Mask, my secret journal written when my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993 was published this year. You see, in 2000, they changed his diagnosis, and I finally showed him my journal which no one had ever seen. He said to publish it, it might help someone else.

I think this was the most Bershert (‘meant to be) thing that ever happened in my life. Because what lies buried in my heart is all the caregivers going through their grief. I started a new journey, Adopt A Caregiver, and this year I will devote my passion, and my vision to making my dream of wiping away some of the caregivers tears, a reality.

With a little bit of help, I can do it. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

People You Meet

Sometimes we meet people who change our lives. We bond instantly, we have the same values, goals and vision. I’ve been so fortunate to meet so many of these people since I started writing my blog. It’s part networking, part caring when reading others stories, and part just meant to be. (Bershert) I was with two of those people yesterday, and the good feelings have stayed with me all day today.

I’ve done a few good deeds. Written to a few service people and told them, thank you for keeping us free. I’ve written to a little girl who is doing a school project and I am trying to finish my year end letters so I can mail them before we leave for California on Wednesday.

I have been thinking about the holidays. What part of our population will be spending holidays alone? More than we know, I’m sure. Do we know someone who is alone, divorced, widowed, or a caregiver?  Someone who is sick, someone who needs a friend. A phone call once in a while would be helpful. Or a card. Or a visit.

Just giving you something to think about.

In the meantime, give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver. Tell them your fried Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

I Believe

I believe no matter what happens, everything in life happens for a reason. Sometimes what is happening is too cruel to think that way. Death, divorces, children dying, diseases making caregivers who have to give up just about everything to take care of someone else. Life is not fair. I’m glad my mother told me that as a child. And it’s true, life is not fair. Sometimes we don’t get to choose the road, sometimes we get stuck in a box that feels like a prison.

I believe in Synchronicity. If we pay attention to our lives, there is a lot of Synchronicity going on. Synchronicity is when you are thinking of someone and they call. Synchronicity is like a couple of weeks ago, I was reading the sequel to The Gold Coast, and the sentence had to do with pirates and a ship in Somalia. I looked up at the mute tv and there it was flashing the alert. Pirates had kidnapped a ship in Somalia. Sometimes it can be scary, sometimes it’s an unusual word, something we don’t hear very often, and boom, there it is again.

We can stay stuck in a box, or we can be open to all possibilities. When I wrote my book, Behind The Mask, I mentioned that something happened to me during an Alzheimer’s luncheon. That feeling was so strong, every hair on my body stood up, and I knew, just knew as if something or someone hovered over me and told me, there was something I had to do.

I didn’t know what that was. Not until this year when I published my secret journal. It was something Bershert. (meant to be) And that was to help the caregivers. It took fourteen years!

And Adopt A Caregiver was born. I know in my heart that this is a wonderful idea. My vision for the future is looming closer all the time. I’m still going slowly, but it will come. Word of mouth has been terrific, and soon there will be articles and newsprint and possibly tv..the possibilities are endless.

I am out of the box, I am open to Synchronicity, I am aware, and most of all, I feel ready.

It’s the time of giving. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Thank You for your Kind Wishes

It’s been a big week for me. Talking to people all over and having some of them come back with kind wishes for my success with Adopt A Caregiver.

Today I found myself on the blog of www.TenderLovingEldercare.com. Wow, that was a huge surprise and a most welcome one. Thank you for all your kind wishes, and helping me to get my word out about my journey and proving that word of mouth is potent. One by one by one, we can do this. Caregivers are lonely, hurting, and they think no one understands. Believe me those who read my book, Behind The Mask, know what it’s like to stand in a caregivers shoes. They need our help.

There was also an article in the Orange County newspaper today from Jane Glenn Haas, whom I have met before, and she believes in helping the caregivers. It take it’s toll on caregivers; they are victims themselves.

You never know how your life could change in an instant. So give something back now. Help all those who can’t help themselves. Adopt A Caregiver.

I believe all this is Bershert! That is a Yiddish word for “it’s meant to be” Little did I know when Howard was diagnosed that I would write a secret journal, and then publish it, and then to my surprise realize that my book has a purpose. It is every new caregivers story. And that is why I want everyone to

Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene