Everyone Has A Story

Everyone has a story, everyone has their own burdens. We are not alone, we just think we are. I urge seniors to start writing bits and pieces of their lives to leave for children and grandchildren. Imagine their faces, when they read things you did at their age. They only see you as you are now, not as you were then.

Our aging population is growing. Caregivers are being abused. There are stories every day in the newspapers about telephone scams, break-ins, and other types of scams.

Caregivers have enough on their plates, they don’t need this. What they need is a friend.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you. It all starts in the community. Your community!

You don’t know how a caregiver feels, read Behind The Mask, my secret journal that follows me for seven years of my husbands dianosis. We were the lucky ones, they changed his diagnosis, everyone else isn’t that lucky.

I am grateful! We are blessed.

Lets help wipe away some of the caregivers tears. One by one we can do this. All it takes is an email.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver

I spoke to a group of people today at our center. For me it was an amazing experience; no one asked any questions. They have my email address, and I hope to hear from they in the near future.

I hope I made myself clear and they now understand what I mean about my adopt a caregiver program. If nothing else I planted a seed in their minds. My message was received, hopefully they will take it home with them, digest it, talk about it, and then do something about it.

Behind The Mask is every new caregivers story. Standing in the new caregivers shoes gives insight into what the caregiver is thinking, how deep his/her emotions are and how helpless and hopeless they feel. Caregivers think no one understands their situation, and they don’t want to talk about it or be a burden to anyone. I wish I could buy a journal and a bright colored pen for all new caregivers, writing out their feelings helps, I know, because I did that. That is how Behind The Mask was written, and that is what makes it so powerful. I didn’t change the journal, I didn’t make it into a story, I just told it as it happened.

My passion for adopt a caregiver grows every day, and I will spend all my days making this happen. One person can make a difference, especially with a little bit of help. Your help.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Behind The Mask/Adopt A Caregiver

That is the subject of my speaking engagement tomorrow. I have no idea how many people will be attending, if any, but I am prepared to talk. My book, Behind the Mask is every new caregivers story, it just happens that I published it. It is still their story as well as it is mine. The every day up and down emotions are all on display. Since we had to keep our diagnosis a secret, I started a journal on my computerthat Howard could not see.

After they changed the diagnosis, seven long years later, I showed him my journal. It took me a few years to gather up my courage to do that. But I realized how lucky I was that he would be able to read it and know what I was talking about. That his mind was sharp. He loved it, said it was me and that I should publish this book.

After I held Behind The Mask iin my hands, I realized this book had a purpose.

And that is my adopt a caregiver program. Everywhere you go, at dinner, clubs, social events, doctor’s offices, community, wherever you are, there are caregivers. These people need a friend, someone to talk to. An email works, gives them something to look forward to.

Caregivers don’t want to be a burden, they don’t want to talk about it. They feel that no one understand what they are going through. Behind The Mask takes you on their journey. You can stand in their shoes and know how they feel, their loss, their anger, their love and the fact that the are willing to do this 24/7.

It is my understanding that support groups for caregivers is dwindling. I hope not. It is so important for caregivers to have an outlet. I suggest each and every caregiver buy a journal and a bright colored pen and start writing out their feelings. It does help. Sometimes I think it saved my life, when I didn’t want to burden my children with my thoughts.

Come back tomorrow,  and I will tell you the outcome of my talk.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene