World Alzheimer’s Day

It only takes a moment to remember those who are afflicted with Alzheimer’s Disease. It is a terrible waste of mind and body.
And while you are doing that, please take a moment to remember caregivers, who give their all to their loved ones.
Please, next time you talk to a caregiver, ask them how they feel. Too often the caregiver gets lost in the shuffle of finding out how the patient is. Not enough attention is given to those selfless beings who give up their whole world for days, weeks, months and years.

Adopt A Caregiver: Find someone in your community who is a caregiver. Become her/his friend. Email, ask how they are doing. And when they say fine, because they don’t want to talk about it, remind them you are their friend. Get them to open up, to vent. Do not judge, not until you stand in their shoes.
Please Adopt A Caregiver, I know there is one in your neighborhood. Give the gift of friendship, it lasts forever and costs nothing.

Hopefully, one day soon, there will be a cure, but until then, remember that Alzheimer’s Disease is not contagious.

Keep love and kisses in your life.
If you don’t know what a caregiver is going through, check out my book, Behind The Mask

Adopt A Caregiver

Something dear to my heart, so I am repeating it.

Adopt A Caregiver

I would like you to read Behind The Mask, and know what it feels like to be a caregiver. Then I would like you to

Adopt A Caregiver.

Email or phone, develop a personal relationship with someone whose friends have deserted her or him. Let them know they are not alone.

Alzheimer’s Disease is not contagious! The caregiver is also a victim.

Look around your community, there are caregivers there.

It’s not difficult to send someone an email once a week or so, and I guarantee they would be so grateful to receive this mail from someone who cares enough to sit down and write.

Give the gift that keeps on giving and costs nothing.

Pay it forward.

Next post will be back to Reflections of Me: The night the market burned down.

Until next time, keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Eighties Old? I’m Not Old

At 81 I’m learning new things, or trying to. Ipad, Iphone, IMindMap, Scrivener plus doing some ebooks. I hope. I was even thinking of doing some of my Memoir stories here on my blog, called Reflections Of Me. What do you think? Too ambitious?

I’ve also started a new writing group in my senior community. We have met 4 times. I’m loving it. Giving out  handouts about characters, show don’t tell, layering, and soon we will start on scenes. We also talk about questions for Memoirs.

I’m trying the book club and the computer club, jury is still out because I have so much to do. And I have to see my great grandchildren. often! My oldest lives less than one half mile from us, in fact she and her mother are coming for dinner tonight. Her Mom is making dinner. Tomorrow, we are seeing the other two great grandchildren. Fun…

Book: I recommend Defending Jacob.

Writing Prompts:

1. The little girl sat on the floor reading, she even turned the pages as she had this whole conversation with herself.

2. The boat drifted through a deadly storm.

3. She crept down the steps to hear the voices

So, what do you think? Should I start writing my Memoir: Reflections of Me on this site? Would love to get some opinions.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

National Caregivers Month

It is National Caregivers Month in November. So what are you going to do locally? If you ever stood in the caregivers shoes, you’d know it’s a lonely, depressing, nothing to look forward to, and your friends usually leave one by one.

My book Behind The Mask is my secret journal I wrote during the time I was a caregiver. I smiled on the outside and wrote out all my thoughts, emotions in the journal.

All it takes is to be a friend to a caregiver. You know there is one in your neighborhood. Or where you work or go to school, play golf, Mah Jongg, anywhere the same people get together is a community.

Send an email, be a friend, do not judge, ask questions, make them feel comfortable and let them vent. Usually they have no one to talk to. As for support groups, they are great…for some people. My husband wouldn’t go, he said that he didn’t want to see what was coming down the road for him.

All I’m asking is put yourself in their shoes. Then Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

Support Caregivers

November is National Caregivers Month. Support your community. Find a caregiver and offer to email or call them. Offer to arrange a lunch for them. Offer your shoulder to cry on, to help carry the load of the world that’s on their shoulders. Encourage them to tell their story. Either in written form, or on line. There are many sites for caregivers to tell their stories.

It only takes a couple of minutes to form a friendship with an email. Particularly in your own neighborhood. Someone knows a caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver

It’s been a long time since I have talked about Adopt A Caregiver. To all those new to my blog, please know this is my way of giving back.

I have stood in the shoes of caregiver, (for seven years) and I know what it feels like For me, it might have been a little bit more difficult because we were strongly advised to keep the Alzheimer’s Diagnosis a secret.

To smile, to stay sane, to face the challenges, the fear, and the anger, I started a secret journal on my computer. I poured myself into it, all my emotions, my fears, and yes, my tears.

Seven long hard years later, the diagnosis was changed to AAMI (Age Associated Memory Impairment) and we resumed life.

In 2008 I published my journal as Behind The Mask. Basically, to show caregivers that they are not alone in their feelings. But also, so that others could understand what the caregiver was going through.

Thus, Adopt A Caregiver was born. I would love for everyone to look around their community and find a caregiver. Adopt his/her. Just send an email and ask to be their friend. Do not judge, let them vent, let them talk, just be there. You have no idea how much this will fulfill your life. Try it.

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Then let me know how it feels.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Support Caregivers

One day you might be a caregiver yourself. Support caregivers, treat them like you yourself would like to be treated.

Caregivers are working 24/7. They are lonely, exhausted, too tired to go out to support groups, and remember support groups are not for everyone.

You need to look around your community, surely there is a caregiver there. All it takes is an email to start a friendship.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.


Read Behind The Mask, a secret journal, to know how one caregiver felt. Me!

Tomorrow Is September 11th

Let us remember tomorrow with reverence. For those who died, and for all those who fought so valiantly to save lives, I thank you. I hope America thanks you.

To those who lost loved ones, I’m so sorry. I hope there is a measure of comfort in your days now and that you have found meaning in your life.

These are hardships. Not the petty little things in everyday life that make you miserable, but mean nothing in the long run.

Remember. Never forget.

Also, try to remember the caregivers, who work everyday, 24/7 to help care for a loved one. It’s not easy, it’s not rewarding, it’s not fun. Life isn’t your own and until you stand in their shoes you don’t know how the caregivers feel. Their emotions, their thoughts.

Visit  and read Behind The Mask. Stand in a caregivers shoes for a little while, and then be inspired to go out and find a caregiver in your community and send them an email.

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

The Power Of One

Who says one person can’t make a difference? People who don’t believe in themselves, or don’t believe in a cause, maybe they don’t think one person can make a difference.

I believe one person can make a heck of a difference. I’m trying to make a difference in caregiver’s lives. In my heart I know I can do it. Even if it’s only one person at a time. How? Mostly by compassion, by standing in a caregivers shoes for a little while, think what they are going through, and who is helping them?

You can help, you can make a difference, all you have to do is be a caregivers friend. There are caregivers in every community, where you live, work, play, go to school, church or synagogue. Listen, don’t judge, send an email offer to be a friend, stay in touch and most of all give them a lift to their day.

Yes, I believe one person can make a difference I can make a difference, and you surely can make a difference. Try it.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

The power of one in within you, me, all of us. Use it.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Computer Problems

Wow, you never realize how much you miss your computer until you can’t use it. My husband has several viruses on his, and we are trying to work it out. In the meantime, I have lost all my passwords, and my computer sometimes is very slow. Other times it’s fine.

We have had quite a week with our cars. We have to get registered in California, so we tried for a smog test, my car didn’t make it. I think they put the wrong VIN number in the computer. Howard took it to the dealer today and they had no problem. Tomorrow he will go to AAA and get the titles registered.

Then we have to study for the driving test. I’m not worried about driving, or eye test, but I freeze when I take a written test. Crazy, but true. I have never had a ticket or an accident, thank goodness and I’ve been driving for 62 years. Knock wood and thank God.

I started knitting for my first great grand child and I made a block. It doesn’t look like a block to me, but I’m sure when it’s folded correctly it will hopefully look like one.

I want to go to the knitting store on Wednesday and buy some nice yarn and make something special for this precious little girl named Madison.

I’ve been trying to email all my caregivers, but the cars and the computer have played havoc with me all week. So hopefully by the week end I will have written to them all. I enjoy writing to them.

If you have a caregiver in your community, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Cargiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene