A Good Day

I had a good day today. The eye doctor said my cataracts aren’t ready yet, but I do need new glasses. Fibromyalgia affects my eyes also, that is a fact that not everyone is aware of. Light, noise, the immune system, inflammation, all play a huge part for anyone with Fibromyalgia.

I connected with an old writing friend today, and that made me very happy. We are going to meet next week. We have missed each other, we used to meet every week and critique each other’s writing. Maybe we can start that up again.

All in all it was an easy day today. The drops in my eyes kept me home thinking my glasses were dirty. But now, my vision is fine.  Tomorrow is my husband’s turn with the eye doctor. I don’t think he will get off as lightly as I did. We will see.

In the meantime, my grateful list grows and I hope yours does also.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

The Lessons Of Life

Stress! Caregiver stress.

Taking care of yourself, meditate, even for five minutes. Listen to the music you love, journal, draw, play with colored crayons, Silly Putty, bang the drum or the pillow, putter in the dirt, buy yourself a flower pot, or a plant, make a collage of pictures as you would like your life to be. save quotes and read one every day, do anything you can for 5-15 minutes a day to restore yourself. If you can’t, then at night before you go to bed, think about a way to make tomorrow the day you can find a few minutes to get away. (even if it’s just in your own mind) Think about happy thought and places you’ve loved, people who have come into your life and made a difference.

See how easy it could be? Yeah, in your dreams. I wish for all caregivers the gift of the above. I hope someone comes into your life to give you some respite.

Someone in your own community to become your friend, to email you, to encourage you, to help take away your stress. That is my wish and yes, even my goal.

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. See www.adoptacaregiver.org and do something for someone who needs you to be that friend. You can tell them that your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Easier Days

Worked on my writing this morning, that was a great feeling. I really want to finish this book that I’m working on, but I’ve got such a long way to go. Okay, one day at a time.

We went to The Container Store today and ordeed closet organizers. Have to wait abotut three weeks, they are out of stock on some of the drawers we wanted.

Meeting my granddaughter for lunch tomorrow at The District. Should be fun.

There are so many things I want to do, and to learn, but right now, I’ve earned a rest.

It’s also time to call my old friends who live here, and tell them I  am here and want to meet. That will be a fun activity for tomorrow afternoon.

There is nothing else new.

I sold two of my books, Behind The Mask and hope when they finish reading it, they will understand the plight of the caregiver. I also finished the book, Still Alice by Lisa Genova, and she did a superb job with great insight into what thoughts and feelings are present when early onset Alzheimer’s is diagnosed. I strongly recommend this book.

There are new caregivers in your community. Be a good friend, email them, talk to them, just be there for them. They feel so alone and abandoned…

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Making Progress Slowly

Finally making some progress. I’ve thrown out loads of papers from all my files. As my husband said, “It’s about time you got rid of all that paper.”

However, I still have loads of paper, mostly my writing projects, but all that is going with me. At least now I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Tomorrow doing other work around the house, a definite break in my new routine of clearing out and starting to pack.

Please do not forget the caregivers in your community. They need our support; they need a friend. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Thank You God

I am not a religious person, I am a spiritual person, but in my book I kept saying, “Thank You God.”

I finally explained it by saying I’m so grateful for everything I have.

Especially today, we received good news about a diagnois that was getting a second opinion, and it’s been changed to a great diagnosis…Thank You God.

We all need good news sometimes, and there isn’t much around, but today, I am so grateful.

I’m proud of my Adopt A Caregiver program, and the good comments I get from friends and strangers alike. It’s such an easy thing to do. Listen to those around you, in every community there are caregivers. Offer to be their friend, send them an email. Be there for them. Think about standing in their shoes for a few hours, wouldn’t you want someone to support you in your time of need?

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Caregivers: Tell Me What You Want Me To Do For You

Dear friends and caregivers,

Please advise me as to what you would like to see happen with Adopt A Caregiver? How can I help? What can I do? I am looking for answers from you, the caregiver.

As for me, I’m trying to spread my words, plant the seeds for Adopt A Caregiver. I am  speaking again to groups, and find they are so helpful, so talk to me as soon as you can.

In the meantime, know that I’m doing everything in my power to start communities thinking about Adopt A Caregiver programs. It’s so simple, everyone in a community (where you work, live, and play is a community) knows someone who is a caregiver. Please know these people would love to have you for a friend. Someone to talk to. Sometimes caregivers are so alone, so isolated, so lonely and depressed, yet their attitudes are wonderfully alive and vibrant. I wish they all would start to write their memoirs, or their loved ones memoirs. Think of the stories we can give our children and grandchildren. They only see us at the age we are now, not as we were at their age. Think about that for a moment.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Caring By James N. Fick

I went to AA today. (Anthem Authors) and one of my writing buddies wrote this poem and dedicated it to me.

I am dedicating it to all my friends and caregivers.

“Do we see after one another, someone in need?

Another word for care.

Do we aid a family, those in need?

Another word for care.

Do we watch over someone in need?

Another word for care.

Do we mind our friends, those in need?

Another word for care.

Do we foster the orphan, someone in need?

Another word for care.

Do we help in disaster, those in need?

Another word for care.

Do we lift the burden, someone in need?

Another word for care.

Do we worry and guard, those in need?

Another word for care.

Do we help the poor, those in need?

Another word for care.

Do we, I ask, see the need?

And know the word for care..”

Thank you James, beautifully said.

I hope our words can inspire you to Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver

To clear up any confusion about Adopt A Caregiver, first and foremost, there is nothing to join, and nothing to pay.

Adopt A Caregiver is a word of mouth program that starts in the community. Every community, whether it’s where you live, work, play or go to school has the same people coming together for meetings, etc. When you hear about someone who has become a caregiver, you already know this person, or someone you know, knows the person. It would be a nice gesture to offer to keep in touch, to be a friend because this new caregiver needs someone to talk to, even someone to vent to.

Together, we can wipe away some of the caregivers tears.

I am not sending strangers to your house or giving out your email addresses. I want you to know this person from your community.  it’s so simple, it can be hard to understand.

Any questions, contact me.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Knitting And Other Hobbies

Knitters, quilters, artists, craftspeople, all have one thing in common. So much stuff! I’ve been cleaning out my office, and today I decided to go after my yarns and knitting projects.

I used to do lots of knitting back in the 70’s because my friend owned a knitting store, and everything fit me perfectly. Also, I handed her the back, two fronts, and two sleeves and she finished off the neckline and the edges, and whatever else had to be done. I can’t sew. I don’t want to sew, bu I like to knit.

Recently a knitting store opened near my house and I was estatic. More color, more yarns, more to do, like I don’t have enough to do. I’m 77 years old, and I’m always doing something. For me knitting, easy knitting, is relaxing.

It took me most of the entire day, to go through every bag of yarn, to rip out old stuff that I didn’t like, or wouldn’t fit and put it all away, neatly.

Since I spend most of my days doing something for or about Adopt A Caregiver, a lot of time reading other blogs, and of course checking my statistics often, when will I have time to knit? Well, I decided at night, while watching tv. with my husband Howard, when we watch a movie together, then I can knit for a couple of hours. That is why I like easy. I have three hats I want to make, a couple of shells for myself, and many other projects too numerous to name. Yet everyone I know who does a craft tells me the same things, they have stashes of stuff in rooms, closets, cabinets, so I know I’m not alone.

I wonder if caregivers could or would find some time to knit? It is relaxing. I have to ask my caregiver friends. Are you a caregiver, would you knit if you could find some spare time? I think writing and knitting are relaxing, and theraputic. We all need some therapy at times.

To all my caregiver friends, hang in there, I’m working on Adopt A Caregiver as much as I can, and one day, hopefully, my vision will be a reality. Every caregiver will have a friend, someone to talk to, to vent to, and to share their day with them.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Every Day Is An Adventure

Every day is an adventure, a new beginning. For caregivers days are the same, only harder, the only adventure is to get through every day. To put one foot in front of the other, and to stay in the now, or as I say, in the patients reality. Have yo ever tried to do that? Suppose your spouse asked you the same question three times in five minutes, or repeats one thing over and over, or asks you why, why, why? Stop and think about this for a moment. How do you think you would react? I hope with dignity and humor and commitment.

So, what happens when the caregiver gets sick? Who is there to help? Does anyone care, is there anyone there? Caregivers are so alone, so isolated, and scared, it takes all their energy to just be there. So, is worry an adventure?

Adopt A Caregiver was started to help the caregiver. To hopefully wipe away some of their tears. How can we do that, by being aware of caregivers in our own community and then befriending them. All is takes is an email. You have no idea how welcome it would be to someone who is a caregiver to receive a note from someone who tells them, “I would like to be your friend. I will not judge you, for I have not stood in your shoes, but I would like to hear what you have to say, and I would like to email you again. Actully, I would like to adopt you.” Then tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene