Resolutions? Or Affirmations

Only a couple of days left in this year. Most of the time I write myself a few New Year’s Resolutions. They always say the same thing, eat less, diet more, exercise, write every day, take time to meditate, write to friends more often, and every year I ignore them all.

So, I’m heavier, eating more than I should, not doing exercise, writing when I feel like writing, and keeping in touch with friends most of the time.

This year will be different. I promise myself that I will do exactly what I want to do, when ever I can and that I will be more productive by not beating myself up about some of the things I don’t get done. I’m just me. I always tell my husband that. He smiles and says, “You are the best, inside and out.”

While I love getting compliments, I worry about some of my friends. Many are going through rough patches. I would love to Adopt A Caregiver every day, but there are only so many hours in a day. I promise my friends I will do everything in my power to make Adopt A Caregiver known, so that others will say, “I want to Adopt A Caregiver.”

To my friends who are going through depression, and I have been there too, I say, try to limit it. In other words, give it a time frame. Say I’ll only let myself be depressed for three days. I used to do that, and most of the time it worked, sometimes it didn’t, but I did not get upset. I knew that I did the best I could under the circumstances.

May I suggest that you try journaling? It literally saved my life. I mean that.  My secret journal that became a book this year. Behind The Mask is my guts, my thoughts and my emotions, and I laid it all out there for the world to see.

One grandson said, “I haven’t cried this much since I was fifteen, and I’m only on page 17. My daughter said, it’s a bi disconcerting to read about your parents sex life in print. And another grandson said the whole story was amazing. Another grandson said, Pop Pop wasn’t that young in 1993, guess we kids have good sex genes.” And my amazing granddaughter did the cover of the book eve while she was crying.

Remember, you have to stand in someone’s shoes before you know what they are going through.

Three things I am grateful for today. My granddaughter made an unexpected visit from California. My husband said he’s going to support me all through my Adopt A Caregiver journey, and I know I am dedicated to my cause. I promise to do all I can do for Adopt A Caregiver to become nation wide, and people will listen, and they will Adopt A Caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them you friend Helene sent you.

Love and kisses Helene

My Vision For Adopt A Caregiver

My vision is to inspire communities to join together to Adopt A Caregiver.


I see community leaders in the entire country inspiring members to Adopt A Caregiver.


If every community becomes aware that there are caregivers in their midst, and we inspire them to Adopt A Caregiver, we will be supporting their mental health and well being, as well as becoming their friend.

Which one do you like? Please comment and let me know.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.  Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

A Better Poem

This one is from Emily Dickinson (1830-1886). I received it from

“If I can stop one hert from breaking

I shall not live in vain.

If I can ease one life the aching,

Or cool one pain,

Or help one fainting robin

Unto his nest again,

I shall not live in vain.”

It speaks to my heart. If I can help one caregiver, and be his/her friend, and wipe away some the tears, I too, will no live in vain.

That’s why Adopt A Caregiver is to dear to my heart. It concerns every community, every household, every school, synagogue, church, social club, it affects everybody.

This is the gift that last forever, and costs nothing.

Be a friend, Adopt A Caregiver. I’m sure you know one. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Short Poem

Just something I made up yesterday. A little silly. A little bit me. A little bit true.

“We are old, we are cold

We squeak, we leak,

We’re old you see

As one day you will be.

But, still young at heart

Still making art

And so it seems

We still have our dreams.”

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver, tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver.

Three Things To Be Grateful For

There are many more than three, but I’ll name the top three.

Husband, family, and Adopt A Caregiver.

Now that surprised me, I was going to say something else for number three, and Adopt A Caregiver just came tumbling out on the computer. It’s interesting how our minds work, isn’t it?

I gave an interview for a closed circuit TV in our Sun City today, maybe that was on my mind. Also writing has been on my mind, since I’m taking a Journaling Course for Caregivers, given by It’s been interesting, they know I’m no longer a caregiver, but it has given me lots of thoughts. About writing, about care giving, about not being a caregiver any more.

Many things in my life come back to: I want: I want to do a query letter for a writing book, I want to get Adopt A Caregiver some national attention, I want my journey of Adopt A Caregiver to be something everyone wants to do. I want to help the caregivers, wipe away some of their tears. I want the stigma to Alzheimer’s Disease to be gone. I don’t want to leave any caregiver all alone in their misery.  I want to give them the attention they deserve and desperately need. They need a friend, can you be that person?

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene