Support Caregivers

November is National Caregivers Month. Support your community. Find a caregiver and offer to email or call them. Offer to arrange a lunch for them. Offer your shoulder to cry on, to help carry the load of the world that’s on their shoulders. Encourage them to tell their story. Either in written form, or on line. There are many sites for caregivers to tell their stories.

It only takes a couple of minutes to form a friendship with an email. Particularly in your own neighborhood. Someone knows a caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Delightful R&R Day

Received a phone call from my granddaughter, “Mom and I are going out to breakfast, do you and Pop Pop want to come?” Of course we wanted to join them and we did. What a wonderful way to start our day.

After that I got a manicure, we did some errands at Coscto and Ralphs and the cleaners, and came home and put everything away.

Then I read. I read for hours. I am loving this book. I think each character could have his own book. It’s Penny Vincenzi’s new book and I don’t want to stop reading it. My eyes are tired, so I will stop and watch tv. with my hubby.

I’m still thinking about that lady I wrote about several days ago. Sorry I didn’t make time to stop and talk to her. I won’t make that mistake again. It’s just that everyone was waiting for me for lunch, but that is no excuse. I feel for her, being all alone, hardly able to walk, going into a store and then a restaurant. At least that is all I saw. But I wonder if anyone would be around to take her home. I hated the idea that she was all alone.

That’s how caregivers feel: all alone. If there is a caregiver in your community, email them, become a friend, keep in contact. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Friendship.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Caregivers On My Mind

Caregivers have been on my mind. There have been so many new studies and findings in Alzheimer’s Disease, as seen on many websites. One I like is the Alzheimer’s Daily News. There are so many, too many to list, but for those who just want simple articles can do in depth with the above website.

One of the big shoe companies is making a GPS tracking chip that can be used for Alzheimer’s patients who are wandeing around. The chip makes finding these people quickly a huge factor in preventing accidents.

Other news is more and more people are being diagnosed, many early onset, meaning by the age of 63. I believe in early diagnosis and doing everything you can aggressively to slow down the progress of the disease.

So, what about the caregivers? Some people are caregivers by nature. But what about the others who are thrust into the position sometimes with no warning. These people are overwhelmed, alone, feeling abandoned, scared of the future, not knowing which way to turn. We can help.

What does it take to support a caregiver. Look into your own community and find a caregiver. A community is where you work, live, go to school, play bridge, golf, or attend a social club, church,¬† or synagogue. It only takes a few minutes to send an email, offer to be his/her friend, let someone introduce you, someone who knows this person. Start a friendship, you remember how to do that, don’t you? Listen, learn, feel. Do not judge.

If you don’t know how it feels to be standing in a caregivers shoes, read Behind The Mask by Helene Moore. This is my secret journal written during the seven years my husband had the diagnosis of Alzheimer’s Disease. We were one of the very rare few who had the diagnosis changed. We are blessed and this is my way of giving back.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

One Thing Leads To Another

It’s always amazing to me to see how one thing leads to another. It could be in writing Memoirs. One memory triggers another and another and before you know it you have written several stories.

In my case, it was my own book, Behind The Mask that led to Adopt A Caregiver. Call it Bershert (meant to be) or call it one thing leading to another. After my book came out, I realized that I wanted to help support caregivers. They need the help as much as the patient does. But, who is going to be there for them?

How many times does someone call and ask, “How is the patient?”

How many times do the ask how the caregiver is doing?

There are more and more caregivers all the time and they could use some friendship and support. I call it giving back.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Behind The Mask by Helene Moore

I’ve been asked many times, “Why did you publish your secret journal?” Truthfully, I thought it might help caregivers to know that they were not alone, that their thoughts weren’t crazy.

I’ve heard back from people saying that my book did help. Comments from a father and son who said, “My father read your book, and he finally understood how hard it is to be a caregiver. ” This young man is in his twenties taking care of his father. Now his father has resumed many of his own responsibilities and the young man is free to be with his friends and to get out of the house more.

Many comments have brought tears to my eyes. But most of all that’s how the idea of Adopt A Caregiver came about.

People in your own community, whether it’s where you live, where you work, your social clubs, church, or synagogue, there are lonely, scared new caregivers. They need a friend, someone to talk to, vent to, someone who won’t judge them, someone who will encourage them to journal, to open up about their feelings. All it takes is an email friendship. It’s the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. If you make any New Years resolutions, please think about giving back. Adopt A Caregiver is the perfect way to do this.

Look around your community, surely there is someone there who is a caregiver. All it takes is an email to let them know you care, that you are thinking about them.

I encourage every caregiver to write in a journal. write three things you are grateful for. Yes, you can find a few things to be grateful for. Even as I was going down that long caregiving road, when I wrote in my secret journal, I found things to be grateful for.

And now, I am most grateful that I did publish my book, Behind The Mask, because it is every new caregivers story.

Because of my book, I have vowed to make my vision for the future of caregivers to be a better one. We can’t wipe away all their tears, but we surely can help them.

There are so many ways to keep in touch. You will find friendship and rewards coming back to you in ways you never thought of. I know, because I’ve done it.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you. Bless you.

Make A Difference

Make a difference in a caregivers life. Find a caregiver in your community, and begin a lasting friendship by email or phone. Listen, do not judge, encourage them to laugh, to write in a journal, to open up and let you in. They are lonesome, exhausted, worried, and they need a friend. Someone to talk to.

I read that  giving back adds years to your life. I believe that wholeheartedly. I also know that stress, feeling alone and abandoned, lessens your lifetime.

Make a difference, give something back. There are more new caregivers every day, and some of them are in your community. Which could be your home, church, social club, school, or your family.

Be aware, pay attention.

Adopt a caregiver, tell them Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene