Support Caregivers

November is National Caregivers Month. Support your community. Find a caregiver and offer to email or call them. Offer to arrange a lunch for them. Offer your shoulder to cry on, to help carry the load of the world that’s on their shoulders. Encourage them to tell their story. Either in written form, or on line. There are many sites for caregivers to tell their stories.

It only takes a couple of minutes to form a friendship with an email. Particularly in your own neighborhood. Someone knows a caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Time

We all think about time in a different way, don’t we?

I thought about it today. I got my seven stitches out from the skin cancer on my chest, and I am allergic to all the bandages. Such a simple thing, but boy can it hurt when your chest is burning from the tape. I took it off right away, and it was the right thing to do.

So what made me think about time? Well, the nurse said it would be at least two more weeks before I can do exercise. Two more weeks? That’s a lot of time. Guess I have to call it time to heal.

There is all kinds of healing, you all know that for yourselves.

There is also time to forgive. Don’t wait for the right time, do it soon, before it’s too late.

There is also time for yourself. To think your own thoughts, feel your emotions,  and sometimes I write the ‘right’ .. I write about my feelings or my thoughts. I think about people I haven’t talked to in a long time. I think I will write to them, and it never happens.

I think about caregivers and how I can support them best. Adopt A Caregiver is a wonderful idea. It’s truly the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

But people have to know about it. I hope I inspire you to share.

www.adoptacaregiver.org

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

I Am Grateful

I like to include some of my grateful list every so often. This time I’d like to include some things that others don’t often think about.

For instance, I’m grateful that I’ve made a commitment to Adopt A Caregiver. See www.adoptacaregiver.org, and that I’ve kept in touch with many of my caregiver friends. This is not a chore, it’s a commitment that I chose to make.

I’m making new affirmations, new friends, and some new ideas. Ideas are good, even if they are rolling around in my head. Writing ideas, things to knit, more organization to my writing, and keeping in touch with all my friends, both far and near.

I’ve been to the knitting store, as some of you know, I’ve been trying to get there for about three weeks, well, I finally made it. It was great. I can’t wait to go back. I might start knitting tonight as I watch tv. with my husband. Our time together, even though we were together all day today.

I’m grateful that my husband writes me a love note every morning. It’s a wonderful way to wake up every day knowing he wrote me a note and made me coffee.

Thank all of you for all you do, for yourself and for each other.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

An Article I Wrote

Here is an excerpt from an article I wrote and never sent out. I wrote it for Chicken Soup: Not Really Retired.

Retired, I thought I was retired, but no, at age 77 I published a book, Behind The Mask by Helene Moore, and started a Non Profit Foundation. Adopt A Caregiver. I’m no longer retired.

It happened after I wrote in a secret journal when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. I needed to smile for him, and keep my sanity. Seven long hard years later when the doctor changed his diagnosis to Age Associated Memory Impairment, I showed my husband my journal. He said to publish it, it was our love story and it might help someone.

On February 28, 2008 I received my boxes of books. No what, I thought?  As soon as the initial excitement settled down, I realized my book had a purpose and that was to help support caregivers.

And so, Adopt A Caregiver was born. After reading my book, and understanding what it’s like to stand in a caregiver’s shoes, I knew people I talked to and people who read my book would understand my ideas.

It’s the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.  Helene

P.S. This is only a portion of the article.

Focus, Feelings, Fulfillment

Focus on your feelings and bring fulfillment to your life. I believe that can be done. Focus on doing something good for someone today, then focus on doing something for yourself.. That is fulfilling.

I talked to a friend from back East today, that was a nice focus.

We are having dinner tonight with our daughter and granddaughter, and hopefully her husband, if he isn’t working. That is most fulfilling.

My grateful list overflows with little things. Sunshine, connecting with an old friend, writing a note, seeing my orchid plant doing so well on my desk, writing one page today for a story, doing some errands with my husband.

Today is my husband’s birthday and we have spent the day together. I love it, now is is older than me. The weather is gorgeous, we are feeling okay, and life is what it is.

Have a wonderful day tomorrow, and try to focus on your feelings. Do something wonderful for someone and then for yourself.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Act Of Kindness

For some reason I’ve been thinking of acts of kindness, usually random acts. I have noticed that people are holding doors open for us, guess it’s our age.

I have always tried to do an act of kindness each day, even if it’s to my husband. If we are in the house all day by ourselves, I try to do something different. Perhaps I’ll write him a love note, or make something to eat that he didn’t expect. Or silly things, like rubbing his leg, kissing the top of his head.

It makes me feel good to do this. I think everyone does feel good about doing an act of kindness. The important thing is to be aware. Think about doing something, and think about it actively. Keep it in the back of your mind, and when the occasion comes up, do that act of kindness.

And don’t forget to do the same for yourself. Reread a book that you loved, take a walk by yourself and notice the scenery around you, watch kids in a pool having a great time, take some pictures, write in a journal with a colorful pen. Do a collage of where you want to be next year at this time. Surprise yourself.

Put on rose colored glasses and think of positive things for you, your family, your friends and your country.  Make a special day or hour for yourself, do what you want to do. Even if it’s nothing.

I did that today for myself. Left off my makeup so my skin could breathe, didn’t go out of the house, I read, wrote in my journal, did a little bit of paperwork and listened to music. For me, today was a treat. How about you? What would you like a day for yourself to look like?

For an act of kindness, Adopt A Caregiver. It’s the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

www.adoptacaregiver.com

Computer Problems

Wow, you never realize how much you miss your computer until you can’t use it. My husband has several viruses on his, and we are trying to work it out. In the meantime, I have lost all my passwords, and my computer sometimes is very slow. Other times it’s fine.

We have had quite a week with our cars. We have to get registered in California, so we tried for a smog test, my car didn’t make it. I think they put the wrong VIN number in the computer. Howard took it to the dealer today and they had no problem. Tomorrow he will go to AAA and get the titles registered.

Then we have to study for the driving test. I’m not worried about driving, or eye test, but I freeze when I take a written test. Crazy, but true. I have never had a ticket or an accident, thank goodness and I’ve been driving for 62 years. Knock wood and thank God.

I started knitting for my first great grand child and I made a block. It doesn’t look like a block to me, but I’m sure when it’s folded correctly it will hopefully look like one.

I want to go to the knitting store on Wednesday and buy some nice yarn and make something special for this precious little girl named Madison.

I’ve been trying to email all my caregivers, but the cars and the computer have played havoc with me all week. So hopefully by the week end I will have written to them all. I enjoy writing to them.

If you have a caregiver in your community, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Cargiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Perfect Day

What’s a perfect day for you? Mine, well, mine would be to sleep all night, not get up too early, to have sunshine all day, spend time, alot of time with my husband and have a lot of time just for me.

My time, alone, reading, writing, using the computer, or just sit in the chair and think about the story I’m writing.

To do what I want, when I want and not to feel guilty about it.

It would be nice if caregivers could do the same thing. You must stand in their shoes and think about what they are thinking, their emotions and choices. That’s why I published my book, Behind The Mask, so you could stand in my shoes for a little while, while I was a caregiver for seven years.

What came out of that book is Adopt A Caregiver. A simple plan to have you adopt someone in your own community who is a caregiver. Just email them, be their friend, encourage them to write an email back to you, to vent, to journal, Please do not judge them, for you have not stood in their shoes.

I am still thinking of that old woman I saw in Crystal Court last week, all alone. What was she thinking, was anyone going to pick her up and take her home. I am so sorry that I did not stop to speak to her, because she is still stuck in my mind. I pray she is all right and that someone is caring for her.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Delightful R&R Day

Received a phone call from my granddaughter, “Mom and I are going out to breakfast, do you and Pop Pop want to come?” Of course we wanted to join them and we did. What a wonderful way to start our day.

After that I got a manicure, we did some errands at Coscto and Ralphs and the cleaners, and came home and put everything away.

Then I read. I read for hours. I am loving this book. I think each character could have his own book. It’s Penny Vincenzi’s new book and I don’t want to stop reading it. My eyes are tired, so I will stop and watch tv. with my hubby.

I’m still thinking about that lady I wrote about several days ago. Sorry I didn’t make time to stop and talk to her. I won’t make that mistake again. It’s just that everyone was waiting for me for lunch, but that is no excuse. I feel for her, being all alone, hardly able to walk, going into a store and then a restaurant. At least that is all I saw. But I wonder if anyone would be around to take her home. I hated the idea that she was all alone.

That’s how caregivers feel: all alone. If there is a caregiver in your community, email them, become a friend, keep in contact. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Friendship.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Time

Time flies, we have so much to do each day. Little things get left undone. Maybe I speak for myself, but as I have aged, I find it takes more time to get ready in the morning, more time to put make up on, since I need a magnifying glass to see with, longer to make and eat breakfast and so goes the day.

But, I do stop myself during the day. I stop and think about how grateful that I am to be around all my children and grandchildren, and that they still want to be around me.

I stop and think about all the people who have to work and take care of others.

I think about caregivers all the time. I think about something that I wrote, but did not include in my book, Behind The Mask. Some thought it was too harsh. Maybe.

Maybe not.

Come back tomorrow and I will write that passage here in the blog.

Yes, I think about caregivers. I have stood in their shoes. Everyone needs to stand in the other persons shoes before making any judgments about them.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

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