Dear Caregiver

Dear Caregiver,

If only you could find a few minutes to sit down and journal. No one has to see what you wrote, just jot down some feelings.

I feel angry today

No one understands what I’m going through

Why can’t I find some alone time, time to think, to rest, to talk to other people,

If only I could, I would

If I could have one wish granted it would be

If you are angry at God, say so, if you feel God can help you, say so

Don’t forget about your grateful journal, what are you grateful for? It’s always the little things that count.

Today I am grateful that

Write some affirmations, such as, I am strong, and I will get through this. I am capable of doing what I have to do.

I hope someone will adopt me.

Maybe someone will read about my blog and about my Adopt A Caregiver vision.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Silly Stress

Yesterday I talked about stress. Today, I want to mention what I call silly stress. The kind we bring on ourselves for silly reasons.

For instance, for the past month or so I’ve been stessing over my computer. Because of the move to California and getting settled, etc., I haven’t been commenting on other blogs or used my Facebook Account. The longer I avoided it, the more stressed I became. Silly stress.

Then I met someone who said her son could help. So I called him, eventually. (silly stress) and when he came over the other day, it was like okay, I understand this. Why did I consume myself with silly stress over this.

Because the more we put off what we don’t want to know or learn, the worse it is. Face the fear, if fear is what it is, and get going, do something about it. It’s not so terrible when you break it down.

It’s true peole learn in different ways, for me, someone has to show me how. Then it’s easier to understand. I can’t read about how to do it, that doesn’t work for me.

Know youself, and so something worthwhile. Let go of the silly stress in your life There is enough stress without putting yourself through silly things.

That’s my thought for today.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Give the gift that lasts for ever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Visit www.adoptacaregiver.org

To My Good Friends, The Caregivers

I hope you will visit my new website, www.adoptacaregiver.org and I hope you will comments on my blog and tell me your favorite sites to visit. I’m always curious as to what you are thinking, if you have time to browse on the internet, if you have someone in your life to lean on in these hard times for you.

People call, they do, and they ask, “How’s the patient?” Do the ask how you are? You, the caregiver, is just as affected as the patient. I hope you get some consideration from your doctor and your family and friends.

I’m trying to get everyone to  Adopt A Caregiver. I know how important it is to have a friend, someone who doesn’t judge, just listens.

So in your community people, reach out and Adopt A Caregiver. Dont’t know how a caregiver feels, read my book, my secret journal, that no one saw until I published it. Behind The Mask by Helene Moore. It’s available on my website, signed and mailed immediately.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

The Birthday Girl

This birthday woman had a great day. Brunch with the family and everyone came and we had a good time talking and eating.

Now I’m as old as my husband, until August 18th. 78 years young. Our bodies may be falling apart, but we ae young at heart and still doing the things we love. That’s important, at any age.

I’ve pulled out some of my writing, and it will be slow going, but I’m sticking to it this time. I don’t have too much time to waste any more.

I will still make time to support caregivers. My www.adoptacaregiver.org is up and running. I’m starting to speak to people and make some contacts.

I encourage caregivers to vent, on paper, write out their fears, anger, whatever is bothering them. It’s so carthartic. It’s a healing process unlike any other.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Look in your own community and find a caregiver to adopt. The rewards are many.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Early Detection For Alzheimer's Disease

I believe wholeheartedly in early detection for Alzheimer’s Disease. Knowing what you are facing, having time to come to grips with it is so helpful in the long run. Exercise, diet, drugs, good doctors and support groups, family members are invaluable. I know, I’ve been there. Now I can sit back and reflect on these issues without the emotional baggage that comes with waiting, and waiting and waiting.

Being aware, being prepared is so helpful, especially in the beginning stages.

How do I know. I was there. My husband received this diagnosis, we had to keep it a secret because he was still working, still a highly functioning individual. I kept a secret journal, which I published later as Behind The Mask by Helene Moore, so someone could actually stand in the caregivers shoes for a little while and understand the anger, emotional highs and lows, the internal thoughts that go through a caregivers mind. And also some of what goes through the patients mind. ( Howard’s diagnosis was changed seven long years later)

Because of Behind The Mask, I have become a supporter of caregivers, giving speeches, talking about it to anyone I meet, my email buddies and here on my blog.

Look around your community, where you live, work, play, go to school, or social clubs, golf, etc. there are caregivers in your neighborhood. Connect with them, send them an email, become their friend. Do not judge, just be there, stand in their shoes for a moment and help them get on with their life It only takes a few moments to send an email. Please give something back.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Get Organized

I need to get myself organized. I thought I was doing such a good job, and now I’m far behind again. Too many emails to answer, papers that need to be worked on and getting pushed aside every day for a week or two. Not a good idea.

Instead of beating myself up over things that weren’t getting done, I made a list of all I accomplished in a day. Well, and good, I got a lot done, but the other things are still getting pushed behind.

I need less Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue days, and more good days of getting plenty of sleep and able to function as I should. Fibromyalgia takes away many days from my life. My attitude has been very good about it, but sometimes when too many bad days come in a row, I wish it were different.

Caregivers don’t have that option. Their job is 24/7 no matter how lousy they feel, or how little sleep they get at night. They function without complaining, doing the job that was thrust upon them. No choices here.

But you have choices. Look around your neighborhood, your own community and find the caregivers. Send them an email, become their friend. Put yourself in his/her shoes and if you can’t, order my book, Behind The Mask. It’s my secret journal written during the seven years I was a caregiver. Experience for yourself, the emotions and thoughts that go through a new caregiver’s mind. Behind The Mask inspired me to start my Adopt A Caregiver journey.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Moore Writing Prompts

Yesterday’s prompts were off the top of my head.

These are  a few more of my prompts:

“The news wasn’t good

She heard the commotion

Point that camera somewhere else

She sky was ablaze

The experience left her shaken

Where had that crazy thought come from?

The door crashed ope, “Police.”

Memories are forever but”

I encourage caregivers to write, either in a journal, or on a scrap of paper to vent. Phrases work, or long sentences, or a few words. Journaling is a powerful, healing tool for good health. Caregivers need this kind of support.

There are caregivers in you own community. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you. An email will work, build up some trust, and become his/her supporter.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Writing Prompts

I love doing writing prompts. I must have well over 500 of them and would love to put them into an ebook, but I don’t know how. Yet.

Maybe I’m just trying to jumpstart my own writing.  Here are ten of my First Lines.

1. Why don’t you just spit it out; it’s what you want to do.

2. The mainteance guy came up and did everything I asked; and then some.

3. He looked like a cat burgler, dressed in black; then he lunged at me.

4. My life story in writing is anything but dull.

5. Icy fingers of fear crawled up his neck

6.”Not now, I’m busy,” then she turned and saw the gun pointed at her heart.

7. The sea sparkled as the sun sunk it’s yellow gold circle into the horizon.

8. The leaves of the tree danced in the breeze and then lightening stuck.

9. The report dragged on, but she only wanted the bottom line, so why were they drowning her in paper?

10. Her grandson was her pride and joy, but he didn’t deserve it.

I hope some of you out there will run with one of these lines and make it into a story or essay or poem. Perhaps I will periodically write some more of them here later on.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver in your own community. Bless you. Don’t know how a new caregiver feels, read my secret journal, Behind The Mask, published last year.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Not A Great Day

Not feeling so great today, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. Tried to nap, and couldn’t fall asleep. Feeling better now. Seems mornings are not so great for me. I used to be a morning person.

Looks like the family isn’t getting tired of us .. I’m so glad.

I’ve been procrastinating about doing several tasks. I think I’d better do them tomorrow. Along with emails that I owe to some people, including my Adopt A Caregiver friends.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing, Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

My grateful list for today: The sun did come out, we had dinner with my daughter, her daughter and husband, Howard and I had a restful day, nether of us felt like doing very much, I’m grateful that we can do that if necessary. I’m grateful that I can write my blog, talk about Adopt A Caregiver, I feel blessed to have readers who come back to read my blog every day and I thank them from the bottom of my heart.

More of my writing can be found on www.anthemauthors.com

A Better Poem

This one is from Emily Dickinson (1830-1886). I received it from www.tenderlovingeldercare.com

“If I can stop one hert from breaking

I shall not live in vain.

If I can ease one life the aching,

Or cool one pain,

Or help one fainting robin

Unto his nest again,

I shall not live in vain.”

It speaks to my heart. If I can help one caregiver, and be his/her friend, and wipe away some the tears, I too, will no live in vain.

That’s why Adopt A Caregiver is to dear to my heart. It concerns every community, every household, every school, synagogue, church, social club, it affects everybody.

This is the gift that last forever, and costs nothing.

Be a friend, Adopt A Caregiver. I’m sure you know one. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene