World Alzheimer’s Day

It only takes a moment to remember those who are afflicted with Alzheimer’s Disease. It is a terrible waste of mind and body.
And while you are doing that, please take a moment to remember caregivers, who give their all to their loved ones.
Please, next time you talk to a caregiver, ask them how they feel. Too often the caregiver gets lost in the shuffle of finding out how the patient is. Not enough attention is given to those selfless beings who give up their whole world for days, weeks, months and years.

Adopt A Caregiver: Find someone in your community who is a caregiver. Become her/his friend. Email, ask how they are doing. And when they say fine, because they don’t want to talk about it, remind them you are their friend. Get them to open up, to vent. Do not judge, not until you stand in their shoes.
Please Adopt A Caregiver, I know there is one in your neighborhood. Give the gift of friendship, it lasts forever and costs nothing.

Hopefully, one day soon, there will be a cure, but until then, remember that Alzheimer’s Disease is not contagious.

Keep love and kisses in your life.
If you don’t know what a caregiver is going through, check out my book, Behind The Mask

Reflections of Me: High School

Visions of me in high school brings back such unhappy memories. My sister, who still smelled everything, got into all my things. I had started a diary, and wanted to write a story, but she was always pulling out my things, clothes, papers,  and  kept looking at them.. My writing career was over before it ever began. I was painfully shy, and didn’t want anyone to laugh at me or what I had written.

My mother, confident, beautiful, outgoing was everything I was not. I felt pathetically insecure, that nothing I did ever turned out right.

At this time the fighting between my parents  was at it’s worst. My sister, we now knew, was smelling everything because she couldn’t see! We were so close, we never realized how bad it was until she started school. Her glasses were like coke bottles.

But, for me, the real tragedy was that I retreated more and more into my shell. It became evident in school that I was daydreaming, not paying attention, and my grades were failing. I burst out crying in the classroom more than once, for no reason. No teacher, guidance counselor, friend tried to help. I kept it all bottled up inside until it came pouring out.

I did the best I could, but I knew in my heart I had to get away from my home situation. I admit I  took the coward’s way out.

I confronted my Mom one day and asked her, “Do you want me to have a nervous breakdown, or will you allow me to quit school.?”

Sadly, her eyes overflowing, she said, “Yes, I give you permission to quit school.”

I left the eleventh grade and got myself a full time job.

By this time, we both knew college was out for me. Something I had looked forward to all my life.

Keep love and kisses in your life and

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Until next time: My First Job

 

Adopt A Caregiver

Something dear to my heart, so I am repeating it.

Adopt A Caregiver

I would like you to read Behind The Mask, and know what it feels like to be a caregiver. Then I would like you to

Adopt A Caregiver.

Email or phone, develop a personal relationship with someone whose friends have deserted her or him. Let them know they are not alone.

Alzheimer’s Disease is not contagious! The caregiver is also a victim.

Look around your community, there are caregivers there.

It’s not difficult to send someone an email once a week or so, and I guarantee they would be so grateful to receive this mail from someone who cares enough to sit down and write.

Give the gift that keeps on giving and costs nothing.

Pay it forward.

Next post will be back to Reflections of Me: The night the market burned down.

Until next time, keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Caregiver Study

If you live in the Henderson or Las Vegas area in Nevada, UNLV is doing a study that will hopefully help with identifying how caregiver burdens affects the body, and how caregivers feel. The caregiver participant will need to be caring for an elderly parent or spouse who is at least 60 years old.

Blood will be drawn by a nurse who is part of the research team and you will need to complete three questionnaires, a process that should take no longer than 30-35 minutes. The title of this project is

“The biological and physiological response to a caregivers burden.”

If you are interested in participating, please call Michele Clark, RN, PhD, at UNLV. Her phone number is 702-895-5978 or email her at

michele.clark@unlv.edu

This will turn out to be an important study that will help caregivers.

We all want to help the caregivers. In the meantime, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing, Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Busy Day

Busy, busy day. Computer guy here, tv. guy here and our closed circuit tv. station did a shoot in my house today for Valentine’s Day. We have a beautiful kissing couple collection.

So, hopefully both internet and email is fixed, along with the T.V.

I am grateful today for the sunshine, warmer weather, the ability to make people smile, to feel okay. Just to be alive and know that somewhere out there I am making a difference.

I hope I am making a difference in someone’s life. Adopt A Caregiver is a wonderful plan, a simple plan that works. Every community has caregivers, and you who live in that community probably know these people, so wouldn’t it be just great if you emailed them and became their friend. They need someone to talk to, to vent to, to hear what they are going through without judging them.

If you don’t know what it’s like to stand in a caregivers shoes, my book, Behind The Mask is perfect reading. Available on this website and Amazon. I let all my thoughts and emotions loose in my secret journal.

Please help me spread my word. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Tomorrow: A Better Day

Computer internet problems for the past month, t.v. problems for the last couple of weeks, makes for a frustrating day. I tried not to let it get me down, but sometimes it does gets to me.

And then I went to my AA meeting, (that’s Anthem Authors to you) and it was a terrific two hours. Hearing other people’s advice on how to conduct our writing year, whether or not to critique and how, written rules, no more than ten; i.e. what is said in this room stays in this room, unless you have the consent of the author, be polite while another is reading, we will have assignments sometimes, things like that. I love it.

I should, I started AA in February of 2000, and in February of 2008, I self published my book, Behind The Mask, a secret journal written when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease, and we were advised to keep it a secret.

By the time we were sure that diagnois wasn’t going to happen, and the doctor agreed, taking him off all the Alzheimer’s medicines, I showed my husband my journal. He insisted I publish it.

I did. How proud I am that now I have started my Adopt A Caregiver Foundation, all because of my book. How else would anyone know what it’s like to stand in a new caregivers shoes? And standing in a caregivers shoes, how could you not want to help them, to wipe away some of their tears, to be their friend.

Encourage them to journal, write down some memories, happy one, ones to tell their children and grandchildren, because when you are gone, they won’t have anyone to answer their questions. And why should they only see you as you are now? They should know what you were like when you were young, their age, what you went through and how you came out a better, stronger, more compassionate person.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Caregivers: Tell Me What You Want Me To Do For You

Dear friends and caregivers,

Please advise me as to what you would like to see happen with Adopt A Caregiver? How can I help? What can I do? I am looking for answers from you, the caregiver.

As for me, I’m trying to spread my words, plant the seeds for Adopt A Caregiver. I am  speaking again to groups, and find they are so helpful, so talk to me as soon as you can.

In the meantime, know that I’m doing everything in my power to start communities thinking about Adopt A Caregiver programs. It’s so simple, everyone in a community (where you work, live, and play is a community) knows someone who is a caregiver. Please know these people would love to have you for a friend. Someone to talk to. Sometimes caregivers are so alone, so isolated, so lonely and depressed, yet their attitudes are wonderfully alive and vibrant. I wish they all would start to write their memoirs, or their loved ones memoirs. Think of the stories we can give our children and grandchildren. They only see us at the age we are now, not as we were at their age. Think about that for a moment.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Lazy Sunday

I couldn’t get on the internet last night from 10 p.m, till my neighbor came over this morning around 11 am. and he got it up and running. I’ve had three service calls in the last month about this, and it’s still not fixed. So I made myself a list of phone calls for tomorrow, and Cox Cable is first on the list.

Ironically, our tv’s weren’t working and my husband went next door to watch the football game.

So, what did I do all day? I did some knitting, which takes time, especially in the beginning. Rolling the wool into a ball, casting on lots of stitches, things like that. I am making myself a scarf with pockets, which means I am doing a pattern, which means I have to concentrate; and I’m making mysef a sweater, easy, don’t have to concentrate yet. Not until I get to the neck, easy. I like easy.

I wrote to a couple of caregivers when the computer was working; that always makes me feel good. Most of them are so happy to hear from me. (or anybody)

I’m asking my caregiver friends, what can we do to help? Please comment here, so when I speak to groups I can include your thoughts on the subject of Adopt A Caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A New Year Message

I did not write this, but whoever did knows the real meaning of life. Has nothing to do with Christmas. Count your blessings. Write your grateful list.
Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.
Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene
WHAT HAPPENS IN HEAVEN
This is on e of the nicest e-mails I have seen; had to include, felt it was a wonderful Christmas message:
I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, ‘This is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received.’
I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting ou t petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.
Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.
The angel then said to me, ‘This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them.’  I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.
Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing. ‘This is the Acknowledgment Section,’ my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed ‘How is it that there is no work going on here?’ I asked.
‘So sad,’ the angel sighed. ‘After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments.’
‘How does one acknowledge God’s blessings?’ I asked.
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‘Simple,’ the angel answered. Just say, ‘Thank you, Lord.’
‘What blessings should they acknowledge?’  I asked.
‘If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy .’
‘And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity.’< FONT face=Arial color=#003300 size=2>
‘If you woke up this morning with more health than illness … you are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day .’
‘If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation … you are ahead of 700 million people in the world.’
‘If you can attend a church without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world ‘
< B>‘If your parents are still alive and still married ….you are very rare .’
‘If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you’re unique to all those in doubt and despair.’
Ok, what now? How can I start?
If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.
Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you want, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.
ATTN: Acknowledge Department:
‘Thank you Lord, for giving me the ability to share this message and for giving me so many wonderful people to share it with.’

Ready For The Weekend

I’m ready for the weekend. It’s my catch up time to do all the things I didn’t do during the week. And it was a nice week. Had a chance to talk to our Mayor’s Chief of Staff and give him a book and a copy of my vision plan.

I am reading a terrific book and I am knitting. I’m almost finished with a hat I knitted for my husband. It’s still chilly here in Vegas.

Got a good doctor’s report today, and at my age, that’s always a good thing. After all, I’ve got things to accomplish this year. I said I thought this would be a good year.

I hope the economy gets turned around, many of us are hurting. We must do our part to help.

My husband is rooting for the Baltimore Ravens..we were Baltimore Colt fans for so many years. It’s a shame the name Colts didn’t stay with the city. It’s not the end of the world.

I intend to connect with my caregiver friends this weekend, either by phone or email. I hope it helps them to hear from me.

My computer was out earlier, so I am writing late tonight.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene