I'm Home

It was wonderful seeing all the kids and grandkids this weekend, but it’s also great being home in our own bed. The trips get harder as we get older, but we will keep doing it as long as we can.

This is a slow time of year for reading blogs I’m sure, so I will spend some time formulating my plans for Adopt A Caregiver. I will share them with you, because they are so simple in my mind’s eye.

Everyone lives in a community, everyone needs to know who is a caregiver, and take some responsibility to see that somene will write to them, be their friend, share their life with them and help them out by just being there. All it takes is an email. Encourage the caregiver to write, to vent, to talk. Many of these people are so alone, and even with a wonderful attitude about life, they are still alone.

In the next couple of weeks, I hope to write to all those courageous men and women  who have written to me and shared their story, or just told me that Adopt A Caregiver is a noble and worthwhile effort. I will not let you down.

At some point, I’d like to talk to Mayors, builders of homes who have Directors of Activities, clergy, teachers, councelors, therapists, assisted living directors, national organizations, anyone who can help me impliment my Adopt A Caregiver plan. It’s not that hard. I need to make everyone aware.

You must stand in someone’s shoes before you can understand what they are going through, and I can help explain that, either by talking to the group, or they can buy my book, Behind The Mask. We all need more compassion. Smile, be friendly, don’t look the other way.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Going To See The Kids: Hooray

Weather permitting, we are going to see the kids tomorrow..this time it will be a short trip, coming home on Sunday. Next time we will stay a little longer. They are calling for another storm watch on Monday or Tuesday, so we’ll keep it short.

I thought I could get back to knitting and I started a hat, a red hat for my husband, but so far I haven’t done any knitting. It will have to wait until I get back home. I used to take my knitting with me, but too much to do in California and all the kids and grandkids to see, so I’m content to leave my knitting at home.

It’s that year end time also, and I have to go thorugh all my drawers and papers in my office and start throwing out. I have a pretty big office, and the more space I have, the more I collect.

I’m going to pack now. See you when I get home on Sunday.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

There are caregivers in your community, I’m sure you know one, or know of one.

Snow!

Snow in Las Vegas, the airport is closed because they don’t have snow clearing equipment and the snow is still coming down.

Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue makes a lousy day of it, I sat in my lounge chair most of the day. Sometimes I just can’t keep my eyes open, but I can’t sleep. Not a lot of fun, especially if everything is hurting.

Enough complaining.

I want to wish my family and my friends a Happy Hanukkah. Enjoy being with family. Hopefully we will get to California either Friday or Saturday. Whenever we can.

Adopt A Caregiver, give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Weather Not Permitting

Looks like the weather will not be permitting us to leave tomorrow for California.

We can go on Thursday, not a real problem, just a tad disappointing.

There are more important things in life, aren’t there? It might be a good time for me to catch up on things here at home. Maybe get some knitting done, write some comments on other blogs which I like to do. And check myself on Facebook, seems there is never the eough time to do that.

I also want to write to all the caregivers who wrote me recently, I’d like to catch up with them. Tell them my plans for Adopt A Caregiver will be moving along in the coming year. I have just about finished writing up my vision/goal plan; I might even put some of it up here next year for all of you to read.

The story I wrote last week is now posted on our Anthem Authors website. www.anthemauthors.com if anyone wants to read it.

I wrote to a few of our brave heroes whereever they are. I thank them all for keeping us free.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Snow? In Las Vegas?

We might have a dusting of snow tomorrow morning. It’s cold here, in the low 30’s right now.

We are supposed to leave for California on Wednesday, but if the weather is bad, we will have to wait a day or two. But we will go..

I sent my book Behind The Mask to the Writer’s Digest Self Published Book Awards contest. I received a nice letter and certificate from them today. I didn’t win, but the letter included the the Judge’s commentary, telling me what they liked and how the book could be improved. I received a four out of five for structure and organization, grammar, and cover design. Thank you Writer’s Digest.

The sequel to Behind The Mask, will be Adopt A Caregiver. That is my life journey now. I hope to improve the quality of life for the caregiver and get them some real people support. I wish I had the time to write to all the caregivers I know. I hope between now and the end of the year, I can at least write one email to each and every one of them.

I’m working on Adopt A Caregiver, trying to write it all down on paper, and iron out the kinks, so that everyone can hear my plans. They aren’t a secret.  I am passionate about my subject and I feel that ther coming year will be great. I’m looking forward to it with joy, encouragement, and interest.

Every day, there is something new, something different. To all of you who have shared your stories, I thank you. To all of you who don’t want to talk about it, I suggest and encourage you to write it out. No one has to see it but you. Try to find one time during the day that you can do something for yourself, even if it’s taking a bath, or listening to music you love. There is always something to be grateful for. So many people will be facing the holidays alone and depressed. I wish for them something good each day.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver, tell them your friend Helene sent you. It is the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Community Get Together

One of our neighbors always invites the entire block to her house before the holidays. This gives everyone a chance to talk and to meet our neighbors and get to know them. It’s a wonderful warm, inviting evening and it’s nice seeing everyone in this kind of setting once a year.

Our neighbors are our friends. Our community is made up of blocks of homes, neighbors all. And every community has caregivers. Look around you. Listen. Try to find one.

Adopt A Caregiver, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you. Such a nice way to help support caregivers who are so busy helping others in their household. Think about what they are going through. Put yourself in their shoes for a few minutes. Think of ways you can help. Send an email.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

New Year's Resolutions

I’ve vowed that this year will be different. I will not talk about diet and exercise. I will not complain that I don’t have enough time to write.

I will be more compassionate this year. I will try to stand in someone’s shoes before I make any judgements, comments, or decisions. I will look at the whole picture and not the narrow piece I see before me. You must look at a person, listen to a person, before you know what that person is going through.

This new year, I hope to be a loving, giving, interesting person and writer.

I want to make Adopt A Caregiver something that every one understands. I want to make my dreams and visons come true. I want to help caregivers, I want to wipe away some of their tears. I want to take away the stigma from Alzheimer’s Disease, and I want everyone to pitch in and help whenever they can.

It only takes a few minutes to write an email to someone who is weary, alone, and depressed; worried, and afraid of the future. Someone who is caregiving 24/7.

Every community (school, church, synagogue, social club, where you live, where you work is a communty) has caregivers within that community. It might even be someone you know. You can help.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Now I’m going to watch the 50th Anniversary tape of the Baltimore Colts playing the New York Jets; the first overtime game, which was played in New York City. And Howard and I were there, rooting for Unitas, and all the Baltimore players.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Catch Up Weekend

This has to be my catch up weekend, since I am leaving on Wednesday to see the kids and grandkids. My fix!

I have my year end letters to go out, and this year I was selfish, the letter is mostly about me and my year with publishing my book, Adopt A Caregiver, and starting my  Adopt A Caregiver journmey. Would like to get them all out before we leave. Some people I keep in touch with all year, some just a few times a year, and the rest once a year. One year I typed up 13 pages, they complained it was too long, one year I did about 6 pages, and they said it was too short.

I have an Anthem Author writing assignment due Tuesday, and I haven’t started that yet. We have a get together on our block on Sunday. All the neighbors on our block are invited, isn’t that a wonderful idea? All communities should work this way.

So is give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver; tell them your friend Helene sent you. I also want to write to all my caregiver friends and just say hello, I’m thinking of you. I admire and bless them every day.

Have a wonderful weekend, enjoy, be grateful for eveything you have and stay healthy.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

People You Meet

Sometimes we meet people who change our lives. We bond instantly, we have the same values, goals and vision. I’ve been so fortunate to meet so many of these people since I started writing my blog. It’s part networking, part caring when reading others stories, and part just meant to be. (Bershert) I was with two of those people yesterday, and the good feelings have stayed with me all day today.

I’ve done a few good deeds. Written to a few service people and told them, thank you for keeping us free. I’ve written to a little girl who is doing a school project and I am trying to finish my year end letters so I can mail them before we leave for California on Wednesday.

I have been thinking about the holidays. What part of our population will be spending holidays alone? More than we know, I’m sure. Do we know someone who is alone, divorced, widowed, or a caregiver?  Someone who is sick, someone who needs a friend. A phone call once in a while would be helpful. Or a card. Or a visit.

Just giving you something to think about.

In the meantime, give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver. Tell them your fried Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

Communities Come Together

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Yes, my dream, my vision, but so attainable. One person can make a difference, with a little bit of help.

How can you help? Use your community. What is a community? A community is where you live, where you work, where you go to school, where you play Mah Jongg, Poker, Golf, cards, where you congregate for work or fun.

There are men, women, and children who are caregivers. They think no one understands what they are going through. That’s true, you never really know, unless you stand in their shoes. I think that is one reason I published my book, Behind The Mask. It’s one woman’s secret account of her thoughts and emotions and  love for her husband. I hope it helps others understand what a caregiver is going through.

They don’t want to talk about it, they don’t want to be a burden, they don’t want you to see them cry. Most of the time, they don’t cry, they don’t vent, they don’t get their emotions out. All they do, is care for someone 24/7. Put yourself in their shoes one time, think about them.

There are caregivers in your community. Find them, befriend them, don’t judge them, let them vent, encourage them to journal, or talk, or cry.

There are more and more younger people being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease, and other dementia. There is a stigma attached to Alzheimer’s Disease. I want that to disappear. I want to wipe away the tears and make life more pleasant for the caregiver.

Please help. How long does it take to email someone? A moment of your time, will give someone a lift knowing that someone is there to listen and to care.

I care! I want you to care too!

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene