Every Day Is A Gift, that’s why it’s called the present

After the heartrending tragedy at Aurora, Colorado, we should be especially grateful for our lives, our families, and all the wonderful little things that make up our day.

The smell of coffee, enjoying a bagel, having lunch with a child, grandchild, great grandchild, spouse, sibling, friend or anyone you like makes our day more enjoyable.

Seeing the sunset, feeling the evening breeze, smelling the flowers blooming everywhere, I could go on and on, but I have other things I want to talk about.

Book: I highly recommend The Underside Of Joy by Sere Prince Halversen. What a pleasure to read. Besides good writing and brought to life characters, the story is about love and loss, and the Solomon like decisions of life. I wanted to reread it as soon as I finished it.

Started a writers club in my new senior community. We are learning from each other, and I am loving it. We have been working on characters, and my homework is to do an I AM and talk about the character. Who she is, her purpose in the story, her fears and goals, description, and anything she is involved in to move the story along. Sometimes I use mind maps, IMindMap, or just put a circle on a piece of paper, draw out branches from the circle and fill in the above. This helps me brainstorm, and then I write the story in a couple of pages.

I’m also working on my writing prompts, and hope to put them in an e book soon. Three writing prompts:

1.The door crashed open, “Police.”

2. Point that camera somewhere else.

3. The experience left her shaken.

The idea is to be able to use this first line and start a story. It works and it’s a fun exercise to use for practice. Or possible for somewhere in your story.

Remember to keep love and kisses in your life.

Till next time.


Today I have been thinking about questions. Going back to write some of my memoirs, and the questions keep popping up. Why did this happen, why didn’t I ask my parents why they cared, why they reacted the way they did, and what were their lives like and their parents?

I’m writing a short story and met with a friend today, she asked questions, and the short story could go in three different directions. Why should it go this way and not the other way? Why was the reaction to the action right or wrong? Why, what if, why not, is it possible? So many questions, and surely there are more than one answer to all the questions.

It makes me think! It should make me want to know more. That’s what writing does. It sparks my imagination and make me think. I wish I could think of more questions to ask myself about my story, but it’s my story, so I will have to make do with what I have. With the help of my friend.

Think about your own questions, you must have some. Why did you turn this way, or walk down that road? What would your past have been if you have done something else? Is it too late to ask more questions?

Think and write down your grateful list for today.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Count Your Blessings

You never know what the day will bring. A phone call from an old friend, an email from someone you knew years ago. Someone might send you a plant, for no reason, you might get an invitation you’ve been waiting for.

You might get a dreaded diagnosis, or like some old friends, they received a phone call that their son was murdered.

Count your blessings! Get out that grateful list. Be thankful for everything you have, from the roof over your head, and the food on your table to your family and friends, people who care about you. Be thankful you are alive and that the universe is all around us, sending it’s energy to us.

Be aware of your surroundings, smile, say thank you, and hold that door open for those older folks. A smile can be worth everything to someone. Have compassion for those around you who are less fortunate.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

I Am Grateful

I like to include some of my grateful list every so often. This time I’d like to include some things that others don’t often think about.

For instance, I’m grateful that I’ve made a commitment to Adopt A Caregiver. See www.adoptacaregiver.org, and that I’ve kept in touch with many of my caregiver friends. This is not a chore, it’s a commitment that I chose to make.

I’m making new affirmations, new friends, and some new ideas. Ideas are good, even if they are rolling around in my head. Writing ideas, things to knit, more organization to my writing, and keeping in touch with all my friends, both far and near.

I’ve been to the knitting store, as some of you know, I’ve been trying to get there for about three weeks, well, I finally made it. It was great. I can’t wait to go back. I might start knitting tonight as I watch tv. with my husband. Our time together, even though we were together all day today.

I’m grateful that my husband writes me a love note every morning. It’s a wonderful way to wake up every day knowing he wrote me a note and made me coffee.

Thank all of you for all you do, for yourself and for each other.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Down Time

I think I need some down time. Too many trips to AAA, smog test places, doctors and I still haven’t gotten to the knitting store.

Howard’s car needs fixing, so he will be without a car next week. We still have one more doctor appointment on Monday, Tuesday is his birthday and Wednesday he has physical therapy. Our days are filled. And we see the kids at least 4 times a week, sometimes more. Howard asked if I was on overload in seeing the kids, and I said I love it.

We still have to renew our licenses and take a driving test. I have been driving for 62 years, never had a ticket or accident, and am still nervous about taking a test. (any test actually)

But my grateful list grows and that is a wonderful thing in this day and age

I read about someone keeping an inspiration journal. www.joydiscovered.com and the funny thing is that I started something that I called my Bits & Pieces file. I keep quotes, bits and pieces of dialog I like, people I like, poems, anything that holds my attention and makes me stop and think.

Anne Frank said: “I want to write, but more than that, I want to bring out all kinds of things that lie buried in my heart.”

And Anne Frank was only a child when she wrote that.

Another quote that chills me every time I hear it or think about it, or see it in my Bits & Pieces file is from Golda Meier.

“We can forgive the Arabs for killing our children. We cannot forgive them for forcing us to kill their children. We will only have peace with the Arabs when they love their children more than they hate us.”

Does that not make you think?

Come back tomorrow and I will share more of my Bits & Pieces with you.

Keep love an kisses in your life.

Support caregivers. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

My Grateful List For Today

I am grateful for my husband whom I adore, for my family, friends, for my health such as it is at my age. I am grateful for my love of books, writing, journaling. Pictures, sunshine, friends, food, chocolate kisses, music and movies.

I am grateful that I will be a great grandmother the end of November, we are waiting for that little girl with great excitement.

I am grateful for my clean apartment, for my food, my love of eating, or being able to eat a special treat, doing something just for me, and I am grateful just to be me.

A red pen, colored paper, fast writing, 10 minute practice writing, notebooks, the computer, learing new things, commenting on other blogs, for these things that I’m able to do, I am grateful.

I am grateful that I write my husband a letter often to tell him how wonderful he is and how much I love him, I am grateful that he writes me love notes back..every day.It only takes little things to make me happy. I am blessed.

I love being able to give back and I hope you all will support caregivers like I do.]

Adopt A Caregiver in your community, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene


Forgiving starts with youself. You must forgive yourself before you can forgive others. How do I know, from my own experience of course. I would beat myself up on days or weeks or months that I didn’t write, made excuses, too tired, not enough time, too busy, too many other things to do. Okay, so what. But I beat myself up about it. Until I realized I was becoming negative. No more, I give myself permission not to wite, or to write, whichever the case may be.

Is there someone you can’t forgive? Someone who hurt you over and over and over? I’ve been there too. It took me years and years until one day, I sat down and wrote him a letter. I poured my heart out for about 20 minutes, put the pen down, and realized all these years later how much power over me that I had given him. He wasn’t worth it. I put the letter into a drawer and I forgave myself for hating him. He no longer has power over me.

Forgiving someone should make you feel better. Do it your way. Journal, write a letter, burn it, mail it, do whatever with it, but in the end, forgive.

The negative energy it takes to hate someone saps you of your strength, your joy, your self.

Start a grateful list and list 100 things that you are grateful for, then do 100 more. I know you can, it only takes little things to make me grateful.

Tomorrow, I will give you a list of things I’m grateful for. You might laugh, but just think about what makes you happy.

What also makes me happy is supporting caregivers. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Taking A Weekend Off

I’m taking the weekend off. Recharge, renew, regroup. I hope. Maybe I need a break. I know I have no energy, my eyes hurt, I’m tired and all I’m doing is eating. I need a break.

My grateful list remains full though. Family is close, we are loving living here and next week I will be talking to my first contacts for Adopt A Caregiver. That makes me smile.

So I’m wishing everyone a healthy happy uneventful weekend and I will talk to you next week.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver in your community and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.  Helene

Dear Caregiver

Dear Caregiver,

If only you could find a few minutes to sit down and journal. No one has to see what you wrote, just jot down some feelings.

I feel angry today

No one understands what I’m going through

Why can’t I find some alone time, time to think, to rest, to talk to other people,

If only I could, I would

If I could have one wish granted it would be

If you are angry at God, say so, if you feel God can help you, say so

Don’t forget about your grateful journal, what are you grateful for? It’s always the little things that count.

Today I am grateful that

Write some affirmations, such as, I am strong, and I will get through this. I am capable of doing what I have to do.

I hope someone will adopt me.

Maybe someone will read about my blog and about my Adopt A Caregiver vision.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Good Day

I had a good day today. The eye doctor said my cataracts aren’t ready yet, but I do need new glasses. Fibromyalgia affects my eyes also, that is a fact that not everyone is aware of. Light, noise, the immune system, inflammation, all play a huge part for anyone with Fibromyalgia.

I connected with an old writing friend today, and that made me very happy. We are going to meet next week. We have missed each other, we used to meet every week and critique each other’s writing. Maybe we can start that up again.

All in all it was an easy day today. The drops in my eyes kept me home thinking my glasses were dirty. But now, my vision is fine.  Tomorrow is my husband’s turn with the eye doctor. I don’t think he will get off as lightly as I did. We will see.

In the meantime, my grateful list grows and I hope yours does also.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene