Time

Time flies, we have so much to do each day. Little things get left undone. Maybe I speak for myself, but as I have aged, I find it takes more time to get ready in the morning, more time to put make up on, since I need a magnifying glass to see with, longer to make and eat breakfast and so goes the day.

But, I do stop myself during the day. I stop and think about how grateful that I am to be around all my children and grandchildren, and that they still want to be around me.

I stop and think about all the people who have to work and take care of others.

I think about caregivers all the time. I think about something that I wrote, but did not include in my book, Behind The Mask. Some thought it was too harsh. Maybe.

Maybe not.

Come back tomorrow and I will write that passage here in the blog.

Yes, I think about caregivers. I have stood in their shoes. Everyone needs to stand in the other persons shoes before making any judgments about them.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

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Feeling Grateful

All the doctor’s reports have been good, and for that I am grateful. I am glad we moved back to California to be near our kids and grandkids, so i’m grateful for that. I’m grateful that we are going to be great grand parents the end of November.

I’m grateful that I don’t get bored. I read, knit, watch a movie on tv. and pretend I’m writing. I’m grateful when I am in a writing mood and get something worthwhile done. At my age, I’ve got to get moving.

Moving, that’s the one thing that’s hard for me. The Fibromyalgia has slowed me down, as has my sleep pattern, but I’m grateful for my good attitude that allows me not to brood or get depressed. I’m grateful for every day, all the sunshine, my husband who thinks I’m the greatest, even though I tell him, “I’m only me.” and he says, “That’s all you have to be.” I am so grateful he still looks at me with love in his eyes, and that we are really ‘two halves of a whole, while each retaining our own identity’ I said that once on national television, and it’s so true.

I’m grateful that someone, anyone, reads my blog, comments on it or not. I’m grateful just to be, each and every moment is precious and not to be missed.

Yes, I am grateful.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Sleep

Blessed sleep, something I never, or seldom get. Fibromyalgia is the culprit, or part of it, doesn’t matter, the bottom line is my sleep is terrible. Very seldom do I get a full nights sleep. Some nights I get no sleep at all, and all this with the help of a sleeping pill.

I’ve gotten used to it, I don’t like it, my husband doesn’t like it, but hey, it is what it is. I’m grateful when I get 4-6 hours sleep, and truthfully, I have to nap most days. It’s funny, on the days I do nap, I sleep better at night. Most of you are thinking, don’t nap, you’ll sleep better at night. That doesn’t work for me. Believe me, I’ve tried it.

But I’m grateful when I sleep, and when I can’t I accept it. I forgive myself for not doing everything I think I should be doing in a day. I forgive myself when I’m not up to par.

Imagine how the caregiver feels. it’s so hard to stand in someone else’s shoes. Another reason I published my secret journal, Behind The Mask. Being a  caregiver is hard enough, it’s even harder when you have to keep it a secret as I did.

I hope my story inspires others to Adopt A Caregiver. Every caregiver needs a friend, someone who won’t judge them, lets them vent, talk, get it out, someone who encourages the caregiver to forgive themselves, to journal, to listen to music and to just be there.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Everyone Has A Story

Everyone has a story, everyone has their own burdens. We are not alone, we just think we are. I urge seniors to start writing bits and pieces of their lives to leave for children and grandchildren. Imagine their faces, when they read things you did at their age. They only see you as you are now, not as you were then.

Our aging population is growing. Caregivers are being abused. There are stories every day in the newspapers about telephone scams, break-ins, and other types of scams.

Caregivers have enough on their plates, they don’t need this. What they need is a friend.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you. It all starts in the community. Your community!

You don’t know how a caregiver feels, read Behind The Mask, my secret journal that follows me for seven years of my husbands dianosis. We were the lucky ones, they changed his diagnosis, everyone else isn’t that lucky.

I am grateful! We are blessed.

Lets help wipe away some of the caregivers tears. One by one we can do this. All it takes is an email.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

I Wish

I wish I was more organized. No matter how many times I admit to myself that I have too many  papers, there I go again, saving more. I’m always putting papers aside to read later, and all of a sudden I have a whole batch. Since they are on different subjects, where should I file them? Probably in the circular wastebasket.

I also spent some time writing on my story today. After that I felt brain dead. And believe me, I didn’t do that much writing.

Tomorrow is my relaxing day. I go to the knitting club here at Anthem, with a great bunch of women doing so many different projects. I love it.

Aside from all that, I am grateful today that I spent a lot of time with my husband Howard. We went out to lunch and that was a treat. I am grateful for his support for Adopt A Caregiver, and for his love notes every morning.  I am grateful that the weather warmed up today. Even our Koi fish were swimming a little bit. Slowly, but swimming.

I am hurting, but I am grateful that I can type on the computer, and that I can read my book, and do a knitting project. I am grateful to my loyal readers who come back day after day to read my blog.

I am grateful just to be me.

I am grateful that I adopted my caregivers and that I write to them on a regular basis and I hope you all will spread my words so that my vision becomes a reality.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Resolutions? Or Affirmations

Only a couple of days left in this year. Most of the time I write myself a few New Year’s Resolutions. They always say the same thing, eat less, diet more, exercise, write every day, take time to meditate, write to friends more often, and every year I ignore them all.

So, I’m heavier, eating more than I should, not doing exercise, writing when I feel like writing, and keeping in touch with friends most of the time.

This year will be different. I promise myself that I will do exactly what I want to do, when ever I can and that I will be more productive by not beating myself up about some of the things I don’t get done. I’m just me. I always tell my husband that. He smiles and says, “You are the best, inside and out.”

While I love getting compliments, I worry about some of my friends. Many are going through rough patches. I would love to Adopt A Caregiver every day, but there are only so many hours in a day. I promise my friends I will do everything in my power to make Adopt A Caregiver known, so that others will say, “I want to Adopt A Caregiver.”

To my friends who are going through depression, and I have been there too, I say, try to limit it. In other words, give it a time frame. Say I’ll only let myself be depressed for three days. I used to do that, and most of the time it worked, sometimes it didn’t, but I did not get upset. I knew that I did the best I could under the circumstances.

May I suggest that you try journaling? It literally saved my life. I mean that.  My secret journal that became a book this year. Behind The Mask is my guts, my thoughts and my emotions, and I laid it all out there for the world to see.

One grandson said, “I haven’t cried this much since I was fifteen, and I’m only on page 17. My daughter said, it’s a bi disconcerting to read about your parents sex life in print. And another grandson said the whole story was amazing. Another grandson said, Pop Pop wasn’t that young in 1993, guess we kids have good sex genes.” And my amazing granddaughter did the cover of the book eve while she was crying.

Remember, you have to stand in someone’s shoes before you know what they are going through.

Three things I am grateful for today. My granddaughter made an unexpected visit from California. My husband said he’s going to support me all through my Adopt A Caregiver journey, and I know I am dedicated to my cause. I promise to do all I can do for Adopt A Caregiver to become nation wide, and people will listen, and they will Adopt A Caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them you friend Helene sent you.

Love and kisses Helene

Adopt A Caregiver

I spent this morning in our center during their annual Art and Craft fair. Anthem Authors had a few tables, and I sat at one with my books, talking to people, and giving out my brochures on Adopt A Caregiver. I hope they read over the brochure and come to my website and read about Adopt A Caregiver.

Everyone loves the idea. I just have to reach more people and get them started in their own community to find the caregivers, then to follow through and email them, phone them, become their friend and confidant. Just be their friend.

Thinking about gifts this time of year. Well, give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Thank you to all my new friends I’ve made here at my blog, I know you care also.

One person can make a difference, with a little bit of help. Can you help me? This is my new journey, my vision and my dream. I know it will make a difference in a caregivers life.

Three things I am grateful for today: you are reading my blog, I was able to talk to people about my program to Adopt A Caregiver, and that I have more energy this week, than the last 10 weeks. I am smiling, hoping to help every caregiver and wipe away some of their tears.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

What Do You Want?

I’ve said what I want: I want to wipe away the caregivers tears, I want to be able to provide every caregiver with a new friend, someone who will be willing to Adopt A Caregiver.

I wish you could get a massage, I wish you could walk in the park, I wish you could have a couple of hours for yourself, to nap, write, or read, or just do nothing. I wish you could be alone with your thoughts. I wish I knew more ways to help you. I’m trying, honest I am.

So, what do you want? will you tell me? I would love to hear your thoughts, your wishes, your dreams and your goals.

Yes, your life changed, but in everything you can find some good. Be grateful for the things you do have. Think positive, have a great attitude and know that you are strong, and that you are loved.

I never know what I’m going to say until I sit down at the computer. I hope all of you out there will gain some comfort in just knowing someone IS thinking about you. I promise to try my best.

I know my vision and my dream can become a reality. To me, it’s so easy. I do have a plan. I just need some help. I’m willing to start slow. Word of mouth has been potent, and I’m so grateful. People are starting to plant the seeds for my Adopt A Caregiver program.

Someone from Israel asked to show my poem that I wrote on this blog the other day. So I am starting to get readers from all over the world. Isn’t that great.

The more who know, the more they can help.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

I'm Home

It was a marvelous four day holiday spent with family. Sometimes I can’t get enough of them. I miss them every day. Everyone was at Thanksgiving dinner except those that were sick, working, or living in Minnesota. Time is so precious, and it seemed that I hadn’t been to California in a long time.

My legacy is my family! I am blessed and reminded that Thanksgiving is a special time of year. Remember, special can mean sad and lonely, or surrounded by family and friends, being well. Not everyone has this luxury. So always remember to write down at least three things you are grateful for every day.

My daughter and I had a wonderful lunch with a new friend. Linda Abbit, from www.tenderlovingeldercare.com.  Will see you in December when I come back to California. Thanks Linda, it was wonderful meeting you.

I have met some incredible people since starting my blog, people I have connected to because of what I write about.

Adopt A Caregiver. Everyone loves the idea. So will you Adopt A Caregiver this year? It’s the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. I’m sure caregivers would like not to be sad and lonely for the holidays. You can help. All you have to do is find a caregiver, and write them an email. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.  If you want to stand in a new caregivers shoes, read my book, Behind The Mask, available on my website.

Tomorrow I will write a simple sample of what a new email for a caregiver might sound like.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Three Things To Be Grateful For

There are many more than three, but I’ll name the top three.

Husband, family, and Adopt A Caregiver.

Now that surprised me, I was going to say something else for number three, and Adopt A Caregiver just came tumbling out on the computer. It’s interesting how our minds work, isn’t it?

I gave an interview for a closed circuit TV in our Sun City today, maybe that was on my mind. Also writing has been on my mind, since I’m taking a Journaling Course for Caregivers, given by www.WritersAdvice.com. It’s been interesting, they know I’m no longer a caregiver, but it has given me lots of thoughts. About writing, about care giving, about not being a caregiver any more.

Many things in my life come back to: I want: I want to do a query letter for a writing book, I want to get Adopt A Caregiver some national attention, I want my journey of Adopt A Caregiver to be something everyone wants to do. I want to help the caregivers, wipe away some of their tears. I want the stigma to Alzheimer’s Disease to be gone. I don’t want to leave any caregiver all alone in their misery.  I want to give them the attention they deserve and desperately need. They need a friend, can you be that person?

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene