Moving Woes

Spending days going through my office, and wishing I wasn’t such a pack rat, but I am, and now I have to deal with it.

I’ve spent seveal days updating my files, never mind, throwing out papers. Funny, isn’t it? Not really. It’s a lot of work, and today, I think I finally made a dent in it, meaning I’m close to finishing this part of it.

Then, there are the pictures, the journals, my writing, books, recipes, office supplies…I keep telling myself, I have about four to six months before this move. And then I answer myself, saying it will take me that long to go through everything in my office.

I should take a break, and do my closet. That should be much easier, and faster to do. After all if something doesn’t fit, why should I keep it. I also have some dressy clothes from the 80’s, where am I going to wear them. I hate getting dressed up. The there are the things I hardly ever wear, what’s the sense in keeping them. Let someone else have a chance to wear them. I’m giving a lot of things to the Henderson Senior Center, they’ve been so wonderful to me and my new journey with Adopt A Caregiver. I just hope they find the room to store it all.

I’m finishing up my old journey, a themetic art collection. That is what is taking me so long in my office.

We had a realitor in today about our house, how depressing! We are in the worst market in the United States. Oh well, again, we aren’t putting the house up yet. My husband said it took him ten years to make me clean out my office, so even if we don’t move, it will be cleaned and cleared out.  (Which means, I’ll just start over collecting things.)

I am tired. I am grateful for so many things. Our weather is getting warmer, I have a good attitude, even when my Fibromyalgia is bad due to doing all the things around the house. Bending and lifting is not easy for me. But it needs to be done, so I’m doing it.

I’d love to hear from you, and I promise I will answer. So take care my friends.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Journal Writing

Several people have asked me about writing in a journal. I tell them it’s pretty simple. You can start wtih a prompt like: I want to, but; I wish I could; I’m angry about; today I; or simply say, this day stinks because..

Pick an emotion and start writing. For instance I found myself a little bit angry today because I didn’t feel as good as I did yesterday. Once or twice I took that anger out on someone else, and I didn’t like myself for that. But it’s real. and that’s what makes it good writing, or good righting. Julia Cameron’s words not mine. But she is correct. writing can sometimes make something right.

If you get stuck on the page, just say I’m stuck and keep going. Usually you will find that once you start you might not be able to stop and that’s okay. This is especially good for caregivers. In fact it’s good for everyone. We all need to vent sometimes, somewhere safe.

My book, Behind The Mask, started out as a secret journal when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993. We had to keep it a secret because of his work. Seven years later, they changed the diagnosis, and when I finally showed him my journal he said, get it published. It might help someone else.

Behind The Mask is every new caregivers story. After I published it, I realized it could help caregivers. Let others know what it’s like to stand in a caregivers shoes, what it feels like every day.

And so, Adopt A Caregiver was born. So easy to do, find someone in your community and contact him/her. Let them know you want to be their friend, and check in with them by email or phone. That is another way of venting.

November is National Caregivers Month.

Adopt A Caregiver, it’s the gift that last forever and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Let me know how you make out.