Making Mistakes

We all make mistakes. This week I’ve been full of them. Some of them have been frustrating, humiliating, and others I have learned that you can learn from your mistakes.

I failed the written driving test the first time around, and felt foolish and humiliated. I had to rip out several parts of the sweater I’m knitting, and that was frustrating. A lot of stitches to rip out and put back on the needles the correct way. Very time consuming, but I learned what I did wrong. At least I hope I did.

We all make mistakes, if we didn’t make mistakes, we aren’t making any decisions. And that’s a bad thing. In one day we make many decisions, about what to make for dinner, to get the paperwork off the desk, to make those phone calls we keep putting off and to cope with the day with a smile on our face.

A smile on our face shows we care, and that we can cope. A smile makes us feel good. So find something to smile about.

I am smiling, I have my first great grandchild’s baby shower on Saturday. It’s a girl. Four generations of women. This child also will have six, yes, six great grandparents! How wonderful.

Stand in someone else’s shoes, and then make the decision, what would you do? You certainly would understand them better. You will feel their pain, their emotions, and have some compassion for what they are going through.

Can’t find someone’s shoes to stand in? Read Behind The Mask by Helene Moore, a secret journal, written when she was a caregiver for her husband. Then seven years later, the diagnosis was changed. Yes, we were the lucky ones. So now it’s time to give back.

I started Adopt A Caregiver, see www.adoptacaregiver.org then help me spread my word, and plant the seeds for everyone to adopt a caregiver. They need a friend.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

Reaching Out to the Community

November is National Caregivers Month. Lets start now and reach out to our community.

Adopt A Caregiver. Alzheimer’s Disease is not contagious, and the other victim is the caregiver. The one left alone at the end of the day. The days are getting darker earlier now, think about the caregiver. Be a friend, write an email, send a card, encourage them to talk, and let out their emotions. If they don’t want to talk to you, maybe they would write in a journal. I wrote in a secret journal when I was a caregiver, and believe me it saved my sanity. Because I had to keep the diagnosis a secret I poured my heart out on those pages. I published them as Behind The Mask. I am so glad I was able to take off my mask.The worry never stops, the thoughts never stop, thank God I had my journal.

I am thinking of writing a children’s book about being a caregiver. After all the child is helping and they surely don’t understand what’s going on. They are asking questions, or not asking questions. I think a book like this is necessary, don’t you? I value your opinion, let me know what you think.

I hope you never have to stand in the caregivers shoes. Adopt a Caregiver now, plant the seed and watch it grow. I’m hoping that every community will want to talk about my program, I’m hopng that every community will have an Adopt A Caregiver program. It is my new journey, please help make this vision a reality.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene