Words Are Powerful

Words can be powerful. Words can hurt. Words can also heal.

Powerful words inspire, create feelings of peacefulness and harmony.

Words can also hurt. Words can’t be taken back. Think before you speak. Once you have hurled hurtful words at someone, you can’t take them back.

Words can heal. I urge everyone to write down their feelings, memories, their hopes and dreams, their goals, their grateful list, and their affirmations.

When my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease, I turned to my computer and secretly wrote about my emotions, my thoughts, my fears. That journal saved my sanity.

When the doctor changed the diagnosis, I showed Howard my secret journal, and he said publish it.

I did, and Behind The Mask became that book. Please read about how it inspired me to go on and start

www.adoptacaregiver.org

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Support Caregivers

One day you might be a caregiver yourself. Support caregivers, treat them like you yourself would like to be treated.

Caregivers are working 24/7. They are lonely, exhausted, too tired to go out to support groups, and remember support groups are not for everyone.

You need to look around your community, surely there is a caregiver there. All it takes is an email to start a friendship.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Visit www.adoptacaregiver.com

Read Behind The Mask, a secret journal, to know how one caregiver felt. Me!

Sleep

Blessed sleep, something I never, or seldom get. Fibromyalgia is the culprit, or part of it, doesn’t matter, the bottom line is my sleep is terrible. Very seldom do I get a full nights sleep. Some nights I get no sleep at all, and all this with the help of a sleeping pill.

I’ve gotten used to it, I don’t like it, my husband doesn’t like it, but hey, it is what it is. I’m grateful when I get 4-6 hours sleep, and truthfully, I have to nap most days. It’s funny, on the days I do nap, I sleep better at night. Most of you are thinking, don’t nap, you’ll sleep better at night. That doesn’t work for me. Believe me, I’ve tried it.

But I’m grateful when I sleep, and when I can’t I accept it. I forgive myself for not doing everything I think I should be doing in a day. I forgive myself when I’m not up to par.

Imagine how the caregiver feels. it’s so hard to stand in someone else’s shoes. Another reason I published my secret journal, Behind The Mask. Being a  caregiver is hard enough, it’s even harder when you have to keep it a secret as I did.

I hope my story inspires others to Adopt A Caregiver. Every caregiver needs a friend, someone who won’t judge them, lets them vent, talk, get it out, someone who encourages the caregiver to forgive themselves, to journal, to listen to music and to just be there.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

To My Good Friends, The Caregivers

I hope you will visit my new website, www.adoptacaregiver.org and I hope you will comments on my blog and tell me your favorite sites to visit. I’m always curious as to what you are thinking, if you have time to browse on the internet, if you have someone in your life to lean on in these hard times for you.

People call, they do, and they ask, “How’s the patient?” Do the ask how you are? You, the caregiver, is just as affected as the patient. I hope you get some consideration from your doctor and your family and friends.

I’m trying to get everyone to  Adopt A Caregiver. I know how important it is to have a friend, someone who doesn’t judge, just listens.

So in your community people, reach out and Adopt A Caregiver. Dont’t know how a caregiver feels, read my book, my secret journal, that no one saw until I published it. Behind The Mask by Helene Moore. It’s available on my website, signed and mailed immediately.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene Moore sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Errands and Rearranging

We did a bunch of errands this morning and by the time we came home and put things away it was way past lunch time. I made a salad with turkey breast which was pretty good.

Then I rearranged my kitchen so that things I needed were easier for me to reach.

While we were out, I forgot to buy a local newspaper to find out what’s going on here in Orange County. I need to start a whole new list of contacts for Adopt A Caregiver.

It’s so easy to find someone in your own community who is a new caregiver and just think how much you can help. All you have to do is be an email friend. Care about them, encourage them to vent, to talk, to visit.

My book, Behind The Mask is my secret journal written when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993, and thank goodness, in 2000 the changed the diagnosis. This book gave me the idea of my new journey. Adopt A Caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Closet, Paperwork, And AA

Busy day tomorrow, have to start working on packing up my closet. I have neglected paperwork for abot two weeks and have to do it, so I might as well get started on it tomorrow.

The good news is that I have Anthem Authors to go to in the afternoon. That will brighten my day.

Today we went to Costco for food, and then went to U Haul to get more boxes! There are boxes everywhere. But that is progress.

Thanks again to The Bloom Report for that terrific ad for my book, Behind The Mask. My secret journal shows what it’s like to stand in the caregivers shoes.

I’ve started thinking about Adopt A Caregiver again, and I have a whole new city and state to work in. Wow! I am so conscious of all caregivers, and all they go through each and every day, and I know there are caregivers in your community. It only takes a moment to send an email, become their friend, be a supporter. I want everyone to know what Adopt A Caregive is about. It’s so easy. Every community has caregivers, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Writing Workshop Today

A different kind of day for me, an all day writing workshop. I loved it. So much to learn, no matter how much I think I know, there is always more to learn.Thank you guys, it was great.

Several of my adopted caregivers wrote to me, telling me how happy they are to be adopted by someone willing to listen. Someone to share things with, since most caregiver’s families are far away. It’s the little things that count, and an email to someone shut in because they are caring for a loved one 24/7 is a blessing. Actually, it’s a blessing for both. I know because I do it and I’m rewarded by the replies saying, “You have helped me more than you can imagine.” Thank you.

My cause is a good cause, we just need to get my words out to people who can help plant the seeds. Adopt A Caregiver is a unique program that starts in your community. I will spend as much time as possible working to help people across these United States Adopt A Caregiver. It all starts in the community, where you live, where you work, go to school, your church, synagogue, poker club, golf club, anywhere you spend time with the same people.

I will speak to groups, churches, teachers, anyone who will listen. And together we will make my vision become more than a dream.

If you don’t understand what caregivers are living with, stand in my shoes,, read my secret journal Behind The Mask. It is available on this website and on Amazon.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Busy Day

Busy, busy day. Computer guy here, tv. guy here and our closed circuit tv. station did a shoot in my house today for Valentine’s Day. We have a beautiful kissing couple collection.

So, hopefully both internet and email is fixed, along with the T.V.

I am grateful today for the sunshine, warmer weather, the ability to make people smile, to feel okay. Just to be alive and know that somewhere out there I am making a difference.

I hope I am making a difference in someone’s life. Adopt A Caregiver is a wonderful plan, a simple plan that works. Every community has caregivers, and you who live in that community probably know these people, so wouldn’t it be just great if you emailed them and became their friend. They need someone to talk to, to vent to, to hear what they are going through without judging them.

If you don’t know what it’s like to stand in a caregivers shoes, my book, Behind The Mask is perfect reading. Available on this website and Amazon. I let all my thoughts and emotions loose in my secret journal.

Please help me spread my word. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

November is National Caregivers Month

November is National Caregivers Month. We can start early. Together we can make a difference.

Adopt A Caregiver, be a friend. Listen to the caregivers who are lonely, depressed, and wondering what is going to happen next in their lives. Evey day is a struggle. Emotions can run high, and there is no outlet.

We can help. A friend is somene who does not judge, who listens, who is there. A simple hello does wonders for morale. Especially now that winter is on it’s way.

My brochures came today, and they are beautiful. Thank you Allison. I’m giving them out, trying to reach as many people as possible. Spreading the word, one person at a time. The seeds are taking root.

Comments about Behind the Mask, my secret journal, come in regularly. I started my new book, Adopt A Caregiver, and I’m using as many stories and comments as I can. They are so important. No one understands until they stand in the caregivers shoes.

We must lift the stigma from Alzheimer’s Disease. We must remember that it is the disease talking, not the person. One of the problems is they look the same, dress the same, walk the same, but they are not the same. Sometimes they don’t even make sense. And asking the same questions every few minutes, well, we would all lose patience. It takes courage and compassion to be a caregiver. Lets try to help them, those who are so busy caring for others, they have no time for themselves.

Let do it before November’s National Caregivers Month.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Courage, Community, Compassion

Today is World Alzheimer’s Day, and I was thinking about courage. There are all kinds of courage, but I was thinking about the time we, my sister and I, had to put our parents into a nursing home. It took the courage of our convictions to do it. My sister didn’t agree at first, and that created some guilt on my part. But she soon realized that I was right. I was also twelve years older than she was.

Courage was cleaning out the apartment. The personal belongings of a parent; papers and things from their desk, going through the closets and the closed drawers. It was heartbreaking to see how little was left inside those closed doors and drawers.

Where were the letters and pictures? Why did Mom throw all of them out? To make it easier for us? To make it easier on the grandchildren who loved them? Dealing with the grandkids took a quiet courage.

And then there was the courage to pull the plug. My father had already died, and my mother had no lungs left. She was on life support, couldn’t talk, we couldn’t get close enough to give her a hug, all we could do was hold her hand. It seemed to me her eyes were pleading for us to let her go. We talked to the lung doctor and there was nothing they were able to do.

Yet, when all is said and done, we know we did the right thing, and yes, it took courage.

When my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and we had to keep this news a secret because he still worked and they insisted we not say anything. So we didn’t say anything.

It took all my courage tp write my guts out on paper in that secret journal. Who could I talk to except the paper? Seven years later the diagnosis was changed, and I showed my husband that secret journal. He said I had to publish it. It took courage for me to do it. But do it I did, and the rewards are now coming in.

My book, Behind The Mask, shows the courage and also the compassion for the new caregiver. My thoughts are their thoughts. I am so glad I took off my Mask. The comments are so heartwrenching and heartwarming at the same time.

And now since the book came out, I decided that I want everyone to adopt a caregiver. Older people have courage, dreams and wisdom.

I have a vision for the future. Committment to the community we live in. Find a caregiver, give her your support, write her an email, ask how she is doing, and mean it. Tell her/him you can listen, you have compassion and the courage to do this.

Now my courage comes from within myself. I know where I’m going and with everyone’s help my Adopt A Caregiver will be everywhere There are already many people helping me, planting the seeds.

Remember there is nothing to join, no dues to pay, no committment to anyone but yourself.

Support the caregiver, you too have courage, compassion and community within yourself.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene