National Caregivers Month

It is National Caregivers Month in November. So what are you going to do locally? If you ever stood in the caregivers shoes, you’d know it’s a lonely, depressing, nothing to look forward to, and your friends usually leave one by one.

My book Behind The Mask is my secret journal I wrote during the time I was a caregiver. I smiled on the outside and wrote out all my thoughts, emotions in the journal.

All it takes is to be a friend to a caregiver. You know there is one in your neighborhood. Or where you work or go to school, play golf, Mah Jongg, anywhere the same people get together is a community.

Send an email, be a friend, do not judge, ask questions, make them feel comfortable and let them vent. Usually they have no one to talk to. As for support groups, they are great…for some people. My husband wouldn’t go, he said that he didn’t want to see what was coming down the road for him.

All I’m asking is put yourself in their shoes. Then Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

It Takes One Person, One Idea

Yes, one person can make a difference, one idea can change the world as we see it.

When my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993, I thought my world came to an end. I wrote in a secret journal, I tried to smile. We had to keep it a secret and that was the hardest part.

When they changed the diagnosis in 2000, our world opened up and we smiled again. I showed my husband my journal and he said publish it. So I did last year. Behind The Mask was the catalyst for my idea for Adopt A Caregiver.

All it takes is an email to someone in your own community who is a caregiver. They would be so grateful for a friend, someone who listened, who let the vent, who didn’t judge. After all, you can’t judge if you haven’t stood in their shoes!

Behind The Mask is standing in one person’s shoes.

Adopt A Caregiver. It’s the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene


Talk About Caregivers, But No Solutions

There has been a lot written about caregivers this month in newspapers, because it is National Caregivers Month. I’ve read a lot about caregivers, but no one seems to talk about solutions.

I have a solution: It’s called Adopt A Caregiver. It’s simple, it’s easy, it’s the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Here is two scenerios: one, everyone lives in a community or belongs to a community. Whether it is home, church, synagogue, school, hi rise building, social club. We all hear things. We hear that so and so just became a caregiver, and it’s such a shame. The shame is doing nothing!

All you have to do is reach out, be a friend, email, offer to listen to let them vent, let them know you won’t judge them, after all, you never stood in their shoes, did you? I did, that’s why I published my book, Behind The Mask. I was a caregive for my husband when he was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease at age 63! And we had to keep it a secret.

So I started a secret journal, which no one saw. I poured my heart and soul into that jounal, after all, I had no one else to talk to.

Seven long hard years later, the doctor changed his diagnosis. God? Love and kisses? The wonder and magic of love? It all worked.

When I got up enough courage I showed him my journal, and he said publish it. And so I did, this year.

I stood in the caregivers shoes, I know what I’m talking about. These people are alone in ways you can’t imagine. They are scared, worried about the future, about big things, little things, everything.

The second scenerio is find someone who is a caregiver.  Ask around, call a caregivers support group, tell them you want to Adopt A Caregiver, tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Give soemthing back. This should be the year of giving back, and it doesn’t cost anything!

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene