National Caregivers Month

It is National Caregivers Month in November. So what are you going to do locally? If you ever stood in the caregivers shoes, you’d know it’s a lonely, depressing, nothing to look forward to, and your friends usually leave one by one.

My book Behind The Mask is my secret journal I wrote during the time I was a caregiver. I smiled on the outside and wrote out all my thoughts, emotions in the journal.

All it takes is to be a friend to a caregiver. You know there is one in your neighborhood. Or where you work or go to school, play golf, Mah Jongg, anywhere the same people get together is a community.

Send an email, be a friend, do not judge, ask questions, make them feel comfortable and let them vent. Usually they have no one to talk to. As for support groups, they are great…for some people. My husband wouldn’t go, he said that he didn’t want to see what was coming down the road for him.

All I’m asking is put yourself in their shoes. Then Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life Helene

Support Caregivers

November is National Caregivers Month. Support your community. Find a caregiver and offer to email or call them. Offer to arrange a lunch for them. Offer your shoulder to cry on, to help carry the load of the world that’s on their shoulders. Encourage them to tell their story. Either in written form, or on line. There are many sites for caregivers to tell their stories.

It only takes a couple of minutes to form a friendship with an email. Particularly in your own neighborhood. Someone knows a caregiver.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Everyone Out Trick or Treating?

No one in my building has rung our bell..I am a little bit surprised. I hope all the kids are out having fun and staying safe.

Looks like I will be knitting for a while longer. I just found out that I will be a great grandmother again in May. My grandson and his wife are pregnant. Hooray. My knitting this time around will be better..I h ave to finish the baby blanket, so I can start another.

Now I have to get back to exercising. It’s been weeks since I could and now everything is an effort.

Remember, November is National Caregiver Month. Please take the time to support the caregiver.

Also support our troops.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Writing Is Addictive

I’ve always known that writing is addictive. The more you write, the more you want to write. Writing in a journal, writing a memoir, writing a story, writing out your goals, lists of things to do, becomes a habit when done every day. And you know what, your writing actually gets better.

My problem: I’ve exchanged writing for knitting. I’ve become addicted to knitting for the new great grandbaby coming the end of November. And then found a few things to knit for myself. Knitting at night with my husband and the tv. on is a good thing.

But, I found that I have missed my writing. And so I want to get back to it. Starting right now. I have missed writing in my journal, and I had started a short story, and only got the first few lines written, and my blog is suffering because I haven’t started my Adopt A Caregiver program here in California. Waiting for the legal issues to be finished. Soon…

In the meantime, I hope you will come back to read my blog because I love writing them. I also hope you look at the website. www.adoptacaregiver.com and help me plant the seeds. Yes, one person can make a difference. And this world needs a difference. Give something back.

Adopt A Caregiver in your neighborhood, and tell them your friend Helene sent you. Just send an email and tell them you’d like to be their friend. You’d like to understand what being a caregiver is and that you know it’s hard.

Read my secret journal, Behind The Mask, and see how this caregiver’s emotions on every page.

Keep love and kisses in you life. Helene

Support Caregivers

One day you might be a caregiver yourself. Support caregivers, treat them like you yourself would like to be treated.

Caregivers are working 24/7. They are lonely, exhausted, too tired to go out to support groups, and remember support groups are not for everyone.

You need to look around your community, surely there is a caregiver there. All it takes is an email to start a friendship.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Visit www.adoptacaregiver.com

Read Behind The Mask, a secret journal, to know how one caregiver felt. Me!

Behind The Mask by Helene Moore

To all those who bought my book a huge thank you. The responses to my book have been awesome. When you stand in someone’s shoes, you get to know their feelings, thoughts and emotions. I never tried to make my story a story, I just wrote it day by day to vent my emotions.The sudden diagnosis of Alzheimer’s Disease was so unexpected, so fast and so devastating.

I always tried to smile for my husband, and the struggle was enormous at times. It strengthened our love affair, and it brought us closer together. We shared our days and cried at night in the darkness of the bedroom, holding each other. We knew it was going to be a tough future, but together we would get through it. My love and kisses and his humor helped get us through the rough days. And there were plenty of them.

But then, the Alzheimer’s diagnosis was changed by the doctor. We were free.

That is how Adopt A Caregiver began.  To help caregivers, to be their friend, when the need one so desperately.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them you friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

The Power Of One

Who says one person can’t make a difference? People who don’t believe in themselves, or don’t believe in a cause, maybe they don’t think one person can make a difference.

I believe one person can make a heck of a difference. I’m trying to make a difference in caregiver’s lives. In my heart I know I can do it. Even if it’s only one person at a time. How? Mostly by compassion, by standing in a caregivers shoes for a little while, think what they are going through, and who is helping them?

You can help, you can make a difference, all you have to do is be a caregivers friend. There are caregivers in every community, where you live, work, play, go to school, church or synagogue. Listen, don’t judge, send an email offer to be a friend, stay in touch and most of all give them a lift to their day.

Yes, I believe one person can make a difference I can make a difference, and you surely can make a difference. Try it.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

The power of one in within you, me, all of us. Use it.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

A Perfect Day

What’s a perfect day for you? Mine, well, mine would be to sleep all night, not get up too early, to have sunshine all day, spend time, alot of time with my husband and have a lot of time just for me.

My time, alone, reading, writing, using the computer, or just sit in the chair and think about the story I’m writing.

To do what I want, when I want and not to feel guilty about it.

It would be nice if caregivers could do the same thing. You must stand in their shoes and think about what they are thinking, their emotions and choices. That’s why I published my book, Behind The Mask, so you could stand in my shoes for a little while, while I was a caregiver for seven years.

What came out of that book is Adopt A Caregiver. A simple plan to have you adopt someone in your own community who is a caregiver. Just email them, be their friend, encourage them to write an email back to you, to vent, to journal, Please do not judge them, for you have not stood in their shoes.

I am still thinking of that old woman I saw in Crystal Court last week, all alone. What was she thinking, was anyone going to pick her up and take her home. I am so sorry that I did not stop to speak to her, because she is still stuck in my mind. I pray she is all right and that someone is caring for her.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Happy Day Tomorrow

I’m going shopping with my family for a baby shower tomorrow. I’m going to be a great grand mother around the end of November. It’s a girl! No, I haven’t started knitting yet. I know I’d better get moving soon, but first I want to see what colors my granddaughter has picked out.

It will be a fun trip. Shopping and lunch.

While out today, I saw an elderly woman who could hardly manage to walk, go into a store to shop, and later saw her painstakingly walking toward a restaurant. She was all alone. How sad. A part of me wanted to go and talk to her, ask her how she got there, who came with her, how would she get  home. Obviously the image of this woman stayed with me. I hope she will be all right. I pray for someone to look out for her.

It’s a shame she didn’t have a caregiver. It makes me sad to think about it. Caregivers are very special people. Even if you think they have had no choice but to take care of their loved ones; I salute each and every one of them.

Please support caregivers. Find someone in you own community and Adopt A Caregiver. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Visit my new website www.adoptacaregiver.org

Helene

Compassion

I used to think I was a compassionate person. I looked up to older people, held the door open for them, felt for the underpriviledged, those less fortunate than myself, and then I became a caregiver.

I was a caregiver for seven long hard years when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and we were advised to keep the diagnosis a secret. He was a highly functioning individual, still working, and we couldn’t take the chance of his losing his living. Not yet.

I started a secret journal, which I later published as Behind The Mask. This journal showed my emotions, my thoughts, my fears and everything I was going through and I wondered about all caregivers. Did they feel the same way I did? Were they worried about their spouses, their parents, their future, their alone time? Did they worry about being a burden to their children? Did anyone wonder about the caregiver? Did anyone care?

Compassion, now I know all about it.

I started Adopt A Caregiver, which means that in your own community, find a caregiver. Send an email, offer to be their friend. Do not abandon the caregiver, have compassion for what they are going through. Help them, support them, encourage them to help themselves. Do not judge, for you have not stood in their shoes.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene