Lovely Or Lonely

Holiday weekends, are they lovely or lonely? For most of us they are lovely, a chance to do things with friends, catch up on errands and house, and be with family enjoying traditions.

Or they can be very lonely for those who are alone, or those who are caregivers. Caregivers are not only lonely but many times they are worn out. A visit from a friend would be so welcome. Just stand in their shoes for a moment and think about what they are going through. Bring a small gift, a journal and bright colored pen, a small colorful plant, a book on tape, a book to read, anything, even just a smile!

My book, Behind The Mask, is only one account of being a caregiver. All caregivers have a story, they just don’t want to talk about it.

Make life a little more lovely for the caregiver. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Give the gift that lasts for ever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

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What to Learn From Behind The Mask

Is there anything to learn from my book, Behind The Mask? Yes, by standing in a new caregivers shoes for a few short hours, you will get the whole gamut of emotions I went through for seven years. According to the comments I get, it has changed some lives; it has shown caregivers that they are not alone in their thoughts and their feelings.

Does it matter? Yes. How can you Adopt A Caregiver, if you have no idea what that means. How can you have empathy, understanding, be non judgemental, how can you be a caregivers friend?

After you have read my book, or a different book on the same subject, only then can you know how a caregivers feels, and what she/he gos through every single day.

In your own community, there is a caregiver. Reach out, support that person. Give the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Help Each Other And Give Something Back

To all those who help others, to all those who give back, I hope and pray you will always be there to help others, and to keep giving back. I applaud all of you!

Wouldn’t it be a wonderful place on earth if we all did that? One by one by one we can all do it. I told you that word of mouth is potent. It is. I’m starting to get help myself, with my writing, and my blog.

Adopt A Caregiver is still in it’s infancy. But it is growing, people like the message. And all of you are helping me plant the seed and it is spreading.

Today we finished signing the papers for Adopt A Caregiver, Inc. Maybe soon we will get the approval for the trade mark for Adopt A Caregiver from the U.S. Patent Office. it would be nice to have by the end of the year.

And God willing, if I’m feeling better, I’m back on the right track. Speaking to others about my project, supporting communities, speaking out on my blog and spreading my word.

Go ahead, Adopt A Caregiver, tell them Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Adopt A Caregiver

Did you adopt a caregiver today? Did you ask someone how they are feeling?

I felt lousy today, yet I thought about caregivers; they don’t have the luxury of feeling lousy. They still have to do everything they have to do, while I did nothing today.

I am no longer a caregiver, but I am supporting them in every way that I can. I am one person, but we all know that one person can make a difference. Word of mouth is potent. Together, we can do this. We can wipe away some of the caregivers tears, we can reach out and touch them with our email words and phone calls.

We can encourage them to vent, to write to make it all right. My secret journal became my lifeline. And when I published Behind The Mask, I knew it was Bershert! (meant to be) That Adopt A Caregiver would happen in every community. That’s where it starts in the community, your community.

Hugs to all the caregivers, I’m thinking about you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Courage, Community, Compassion

Today is World Alzheimer’s Day, and I was thinking about courage. There are all kinds of courage, but I was thinking about the time we, my sister and I, had to put our parents into a nursing home. It took the courage of our convictions to do it. My sister didn’t agree at first, and that created some guilt on my part. But she soon realized that I was right. I was also twelve years older than she was.

Courage was cleaning out the apartment. The personal belongings of a parent; papers and things from their desk, going through the closets and the closed drawers. It was heartbreaking to see how little was left inside those closed doors and drawers.

Where were the letters and pictures? Why did Mom throw all of them out? To make it easier for us? To make it easier on the grandchildren who loved them? Dealing with the grandkids took a quiet courage.

And then there was the courage to pull the plug. My father had already died, and my mother had no lungs left. She was on life support, couldn’t talk, we couldn’t get close enough to give her a hug, all we could do was hold her hand. It seemed to me her eyes were pleading for us to let her go. We talked to the lung doctor and there was nothing they were able to do.

Yet, when all is said and done, we know we did the right thing, and yes, it took courage.

When my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and we had to keep this news a secret because he still worked and they insisted we not say anything. So we didn’t say anything.

It took all my courage tp write my guts out on paper in that secret journal. Who could I talk to except the paper? Seven years later the diagnosis was changed, and I showed my husband that secret journal. He said I had to publish it. It took courage for me to do it. But do it I did, and the rewards are now coming in.

My book, Behind The Mask, shows the courage and also the compassion for the new caregiver. My thoughts are their thoughts. I am so glad I took off my Mask. The comments are so heartwrenching and heartwarming at the same time.

And now since the book came out, I decided that I want everyone to adopt a caregiver. Older people have courage, dreams and wisdom.

I have a vision for the future. Committment to the community we live in. Find a caregiver, give her your support, write her an email, ask how she is doing, and mean it. Tell her/him you can listen, you have compassion and the courage to do this.

Now my courage comes from within myself. I know where I’m going and with everyone’s help my Adopt A Caregiver will be everywhere There are already many people helping me, planting the seeds.

Remember there is nothing to join, no dues to pay, no committment to anyone but yourself.

Support the caregiver, you too have courage, compassion and community within yourself.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

In One Second Your Life Changes

Have you ever thought about what would happen if you suddenly became a caregiver? Do you ever think about what would become of your family, friends and others around you?

Would you be scared, depressed, feeling helpless and alone? Of course you would, that would only be natural.

Real life happens that way. So think about it. And think about all the people you know that are caregivers. Give a thought to what is going through their mind. Think about how they must be feeling.

Give something back, be thankful for your life. Adopt A Caregiver.

Nothing to pay, nothing to join, no committment, except to yourself.

Adopt A Caregiver, be a friend, listen, help those who can’t help themselves.

Just think about it, your life could change in one second.  Wouldn’t you want someone to care?

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene