Word Of Mouth

Adopt A Caregiver:

Word of mouth is potent. If I can plant a seed and watch it grow, it will be worthwhile.

One person can make a difference; with a little bit of help. We can’t wipe away all the tears from the caregivers faces, but we can do something to show we care. We can listen. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

Remember that caregivers are men, women, and children. Don’t forget the kids. They are starting to go back to school now, and if they are caregivers or caregivers helpers, they think no one understands what they are going through, and they keep it all inside. Do not leave them alone in their misery.

I know men who are dressing their wives, who have learned how to put makeup on for them, and sometimes they even spritz some perfume on just because they know their wives or mothers or grandmothers like the smell.

Remind caregivers to take care of themselves. Send and email, tell them you are here to listen, to let them vent, send them a list of things you could do for them. An email, or a card goes a long ways to making a caregiver smile.

If you want to Adopt A Caregiver, call the local Alzheimer’s support group in your neighborhood, tell them about Adopt A Caregiver, ask them to let  you adopt one. Or go to the Mayo Clinic, or the Alzheimer’s Association, the Cancer  website, remember a caregiver is a caregiver. They need our help and support. They are too tired, to depressed to go out to support group themselves, especially if they can’t find someone to sit with the patient.

My book Behind The Mask, is every new caregivers story.

Lauren Kessler’s book, Finding Life in the Land of Alzheimer’s looks at life in an Alzheimer’s facility. It’s a marvelous  book, a different perspective. A great gift, something to read and ponder, to talk about at book groups. I loved it and I learned so much from her story. Thank you Lauren Kessler.

When I start my new book, Adopt A Caregiver, do you want me to post some portions of my story here? Let me know, send me an email, or comment at the end of this blog.

Keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I try to get the word out about my Adopt A Caregiver program.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Behind TheMask by Helene Moore

This is the first page of my book Behind The Mask.

“The Victim

The diagnosis is in. In the blink of an eye I become a caregiver. I am the one in charge, caring for someone who no longer can care for himself. The more he deteriorates the harder I will have to work, not only physically but to hide my emotions as well. To stuff away in a trunk all my tears, feelings, anger and hurt; not to be opened until we re separated by death. Then, and only then, will I be able to acknowledge what all caregivers know.

The death sentence for Alzheimer’s Disease is for two people. One is a prisoner of his mind, and the other is a prisoner of his soul.

I refuse to be a victim. I reject wallowing in self-pity or mournful depression. Instead I celebrate life with my family and my friends and vow to be fully alive in the moment.

The Reprieve

Seven years later, God’s plans have changed. I am no longer climbing that steep winding mountain. The disease has either slowed down or never materialized.

The strength of the mountain is within me. I am walking on level ground with peace and happiness and love.

I can handle whatever comes next with God’s help.”

What comes next is Adopt a Caregiver. I decided this is my new mountain to climb, my new road to travel. One person can make a difference, with a little bit of help. I am starting to get that help. Thank you.

If I planted a seed, it is growing.  Word of mouth is potent.

Let’s wipe away all the caregivers tears.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Author Signing Today

Cheesecake and Crime is supporting local authors and today I signed my book, Behind The Mask there. Thank you for the opportunity to speak;  and your cheesecake is delicious. I met some wonderful people  today. Thank you all for coming and  listening.

If I planted a seed about my adopt a caregiver program, I’m happy. Word of mouth is potent and adopt a caregiver is so important to me. Caregivers are caregivers, 24/7, not only for Alzheimer’s Disease but all others as well. And caregivers are men, women and children. Don’t forget the kids. They too, are having a hard time and think no one understands what they are going through. Usually they are right.

If my book does nothing else, at least I know it helps everyone to understand what a new caregiver is going through. And that we do understand.

I believe in early diagnosis, and I’ve been reading that more younger people are being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. I also read there is about a 30% change since the early 2000’s if I can understand the statistics I’ve read.

It’s so important to keep the brain young. Write in a journal, it’s like writing a letter. Start with,  Dear Self and then talk and talk and write it all out. That is what I did, and yes, it did help.

Play scrabble on line, or any other game, anything that makes you think. Keep your brain young. Exercise it in any way you can.

I hope that word of mouth comes to your neighborhood, and that you will support my adopt a caregiver program. It is well worth the effort of writing an email and saying, I’m thinking about you, and I’m listening.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene