It Takes One Person, One Idea

Yes, one person can make a difference, one idea can change the world as we see it.

When my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease in 1993, I thought my world came to an end. I wrote in a secret journal, I tried to smile. We had to keep it a secret and that was the hardest part.

When they changed the diagnosis in 2000, our world opened up and we smiled again. I showed my husband my journal and he said publish it. So I did last year. Behind The Mask was the catalyst for my idea for Adopt A Caregiver.

All it takes is an email to someone in your own community who is a caregiver. They would be so grateful for a friend, someone who listened, who let the vent, who didn’t judge. After all, you can’t judge if you haven’t stood in their shoes!

Behind The Mask is standing in one person’s shoes.

Adopt A Caregiver. It’s the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

visit www.adoptacaregiver.org

Time

We all think about time in a different way, don’t we?

I thought about it today. I got my seven stitches out from the skin cancer on my chest, and I am allergic to all the bandages. Such a simple thing, but boy can it hurt when your chest is burning from the tape. I took it off right away, and it was the right thing to do.

So what made me think about time? Well, the nurse said it would be at least two more weeks before I can do exercise. Two more weeks? That’s a lot of time. Guess I have to call it time to heal.

There is all kinds of healing, you all know that for yourselves.

There is also time to forgive. Don’t wait for the right time, do it soon, before it’s too late.

There is also time for yourself. To think your own thoughts, feel your emotions,  and sometimes I write the ‘right’ .. I write about my feelings or my thoughts. I think about people I haven’t talked to in a long time. I think I will write to them, and it never happens.

I think about caregivers and how I can support them best. Adopt A Caregiver is a wonderful idea. It’s truly the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

But people have to know about it. I hope I inspire you to share.

www.adoptacaregiver.org

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Support Caregivers

One day you might be a caregiver yourself. Support caregivers, treat them like you yourself would like to be treated.

Caregivers are working 24/7. They are lonely, exhausted, too tired to go out to support groups, and remember support groups are not for everyone.

You need to look around your community, surely there is a caregiver there. All it takes is an email to start a friendship.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Visit www.adoptacaregiver.com

Read Behind The Mask, a secret journal, to know how one caregiver felt. Me!

Lovely Or Lonely

Holiday weekends, are they lovely or lonely? For most of us they are lovely, a chance to do things with friends, catch up on errands and house, and be with family enjoying traditions.

Or they can be very lonely for those who are alone, or those who are caregivers. Caregivers are not only lonely but many times they are worn out. A visit from a friend would be so welcome. Just stand in their shoes for a moment and think about what they are going through. Bring a small gift, a journal and bright colored pen, a small colorful plant, a book on tape, a book to read, anything, even just a smile!

My book, Behind The Mask, is only one account of being a caregiver. All caregivers have a story, they just don’t want to talk about it.

Make life a little more lovely for the caregiver. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Give the gift that lasts for ever and costs nothing.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

visit my website www.adoptacaregiver.org

Community

What is a community? To me, a community is where you live, work, go to school, play golf, Mah Jongg, belong to a temple or church, anywhere you congregate regularly with the same people is a community.

And in your community there are caregivers. Think about caregivers; unless you can stand in a caregivers shoes you have no idea what they are going through. Their emotions, thoughts, actions might not be why you think.

My book, Behind The Mask was written as a secret journal that no one was supposed to read. When the doctors changed my husbands diagnosis I showed him my journal and he said to publish it, that it might help someone. I hope by standing in my shoes for a few short hours you will  have a better understanding of ‘standing in the caregivers shoes’.

The outcome of the book is that I started www.Adopt A Caregiver.org

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Happy Day Tomorrow

I’m going shopping with my family for a baby shower tomorrow. I’m going to be a great grand mother around the end of November. It’s a girl! No, I haven’t started knitting yet. I know I’d better get moving soon, but first I want to see what colors my granddaughter has picked out.

It will be a fun trip. Shopping and lunch.

While out today, I saw an elderly woman who could hardly manage to walk, go into a store to shop, and later saw her painstakingly walking toward a restaurant. She was all alone. How sad. A part of me wanted to go and talk to her, ask her how she got there, who came with her, how would she get  home. Obviously the image of this woman stayed with me. I hope she will be all right. I pray for someone to look out for her.

It’s a shame she didn’t have a caregiver. It makes me sad to think about it. Caregivers are very special people. Even if you think they have had no choice but to take care of their loved ones; I salute each and every one of them.

Please support caregivers. Find someone in you own community and Adopt A Caregiver. Tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Visit my new website www.adoptacaregiver.org

Helene

Where Were You

“Where were you when I had no one to talk to, when I needed to vent, when I needed a shoulder to cry on?

Where were you when I tried to smile and couldn’t?

Where were you when I was too depressed to function?

I needed you, but you were of with friends and clubs, too immersed in your activities to think of mine.

Where were you when I needed you, and everyone else deserted us?”

This is what I left out of my book, Behind The Mask because I thought it might be too brutal. But this is how caregivers feel.

This is what I want to change, and why I want everyone to Adopt A Caregiver. Plant my seed and let it grow by word of mouth. Together we can make a difference, one by one by one.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life.

Look at my new website www.adoptacaregiver.org

Compassion

I used to think I was a compassionate person. I looked up to older people, held the door open for them, felt for the underpriviledged, those less fortunate than myself, and then I became a caregiver.

I was a caregiver for seven long hard years when my husband was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and we were advised to keep the diagnosis a secret. He was a highly functioning individual, still working, and we couldn’t take the chance of his losing his living. Not yet.

I started a secret journal, which I later published as Behind The Mask. This journal showed my emotions, my thoughts, my fears and everything I was going through and I wondered about all caregivers. Did they feel the same way I did? Were they worried about their spouses, their parents, their future, their alone time? Did they worry about being a burden to their children? Did anyone wonder about the caregiver? Did anyone care?

Compassion, now I know all about it.

I started Adopt A Caregiver, which means that in your own community, find a caregiver. Send an email, offer to be their friend. Do not abandon the caregiver, have compassion for what they are going through. Help them, support them, encourage them to help themselves. Do not judge, for you have not stood in their shoes.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Silly Stress

Yesterday I talked about stress. Today, I want to mention what I call silly stress. The kind we bring on ourselves for silly reasons.

For instance, for the past month or so I’ve been stessing over my computer. Because of the move to California and getting settled, etc., I haven’t been commenting on other blogs or used my Facebook Account. The longer I avoided it, the more stressed I became. Silly stress.

Then I met someone who said her son could help. So I called him, eventually. (silly stress) and when he came over the other day, it was like okay, I understand this. Why did I consume myself with silly stress over this.

Because the more we put off what we don’t want to know or learn, the worse it is. Face the fear, if fear is what it is, and get going, do something about it. It’s not so terrible when you break it down.

It’s true peole learn in different ways, for me, someone has to show me how. Then it’s easier to understand. I can’t read about how to do it, that doesn’t work for me.

Know youself, and so something worthwhile. Let go of the silly stress in your life There is enough stress without putting yourself through silly things.

That’s my thought for today.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Give the gift that lasts for ever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Visit www.adoptacaregiver.org

The Lessons Of Life

Stress! Caregiver stress.

Taking care of yourself, meditate, even for five minutes. Listen to the music you love, journal, draw, play with colored crayons, Silly Putty, bang the drum or the pillow, putter in the dirt, buy yourself a flower pot, or a plant, make a collage of pictures as you would like your life to be. save quotes and read one every day, do anything you can for 5-15 minutes a day to restore yourself. If you can’t, then at night before you go to bed, think about a way to make tomorrow the day you can find a few minutes to get away. (even if it’s just in your own mind) Think about happy thought and places you’ve loved, people who have come into your life and made a difference.

See how easy it could be? Yeah, in your dreams. I wish for all caregivers the gift of the above. I hope someone comes into your life to give you some respite.

Someone in your own community to become your friend, to email you, to encourage you, to help take away your stress. That is my wish and yes, even my goal.

Adopt A Caregiver. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. See www.adoptacaregiver.org and do something for someone who needs you to be that friend. You can tell them that your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene