Comments On Adopt A Caregiver

I want to share with all of  an email I received from Sue Bobby at the Henderson Senior Center. These folks are just the best, they don’t talk about caring, they do the caring. And It’s a lot of work. I salute all of you, and you in particular Sue. I can’t thank you enough for all you have done for me and for Adopt A Caregiver. This email made me cry.

“Of course you will be missed by the new friends you made here in Henderson, and yes, we will definitely keep in touch. I believe that you were meant to be here in Henderson for the time you have been here…to educate and inspire all of us to do more for caregivers.

Judy continues to tell me how she feels so blessed to have been brought together with her new caregiving friend Rhetta. They are tentatively planning on getting together to do some art work projects.

And one man, who is our patron, who has the young son who is the caregiver, has told us, by reading your book, he has gained some insight into what a difficult task his son has being his caregiver. This man has been able to be more independent and give his son more respite time lately. The man, who used to stay at home and not socialize using his near-blindness and deafness as an excuse not to socialize, now comes to the Center and volunteers his time with the Kids to Kids program and plays chess with others, and uses our magnifying machine to read books (like yours) and has a hot lunch every Tuesday. Tuesdays are now his son’s respite day to do activities with friends his own age.”

Adopt A Caregiver does work. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Distracted

I’ve been distracted all day. Hurting from the wet damp weather, and unable to nap or sleep well, knowing I have several projects waiting for me. One is due tomorrow, and that is part of the Memoir Workshop that Anthem Authors is presenting in March. I have it down in my head, but haven’t written it out yet, and we are supposed to be doing a dress rehearsal tomorrow at 3 p.m.

That means tomorrow morning before I do anything else, I have to do that project. I have to call several friends and have some business calls to make also, which means I will be distracted again.

It seems like my life is moving about 85 miles an hour.

We have decided to move back to California to be close to our children and grandchildren. More about that tomorrow.

In the meantime, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Why Should You Adopt A Caregiver

Why should you Adopt A Caregiver? To help and support a fellow human being who is struggling to maintain herself and the person she is caring for. It’s a wonderrful way to give something back, and so helpful to the caregiver who might be struggling and without someone to talk to.

All you have to do is send an email and offer to be his/her friend. Tell her/him that although you have never stood in a caregivers shoes, you are trying to put yourself there and then let the caregiver take it from there She might be able to open up to you as a friend, as she could never open up to her children or other family members.

When I wrote Behind The Mask, my secret journal, I never thought it would be published. But after it was, I decided it could help others understand the emotions and turmoil the caregiver faces every day. Mine was a secret journal, as we were advised to keep my husbands diagnosis a secret, so I poured myself into the journal, not wanting to be a burden to my children.

I know my book has helped others, they tell me that all the time. They say, “I never knew, why didn’t you tell me?” Well, I’m telling you so you can go out and Adopt A Caregiver in your community and say, my friend Helene sent me.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Happy Valentines Day to all.

Too Busy

Is there such a thing as being too busy, having too much to do all of a sudden. All of a sudden it catches up with you. And today I was a klutz. I fell over my own two shoes. No, I’m fine, didn’t get hurt, but I am a little sore.

I have to work on my Memoir Workshop papers, I have several long distance phone calls to make tomorrow morning, and then off to the Knitting Club here at Anthem, so I can knit and relax. I hope.

Saturday my daughter and granddaughter are coming to visit if the weather holds up and doesn’t rain or snow in the mountains on the way here from California.

So, to all you caregivers out there, I salute you. I don’t know how you do it day after day. I hope someone adopts you and tells you that I sent them to you. I hope you are able to write, vent, become a friend and that your day will be just a little brighter tomorrow. I wish you joy, peace, and love.

Adopt A Caregiver does work. I have the comments to prove that. Please send me yours.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Early Valentines Day

Today was an early Valentines Day for the members of the Henderson Senior Center who came to our home  to see our collection of kissing couples. They had a wonderful time, and we had a wonderful time talking about different pieces of art and the stories around them. All faces were smiling as they to get on the bus to go to lunch. An outing that will stay with them at least for a few days. Howard and I loved it. A reporter and photographer were here also from the Henderson Home News and I think they enjoyed themselves also. I hope so. Will keep you posted if the article appears online.

I talked about my book Behind The Mask, and Adopt A Caregiver and a few of the women already were part of my program. They spoke highly about it. The fact they are doing their part, writing emails to someone who is a caregiver gives me great pleasure. In  a few days I will be telling you some of the comments I have received from both the caregiver and the one who adopted them.

As you all know, I have not been well, and I am far behind in my paperwork. But writing on this blog every night is a must for me. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it.

Our Memoir Workshop is coming along nicely. I hope we will be able to do a great job and maybe take our workshop to some senior homes, or even do this workshop in one of our libraries.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Chronic Fatigue

Remember my favorite saying. You need to stand in someone’s shoes before you can comment on how they feel, or why they do what they do.

Yesterday and today were the first two good days I’ve had in two and a half weeks. And there was also that little 9 week Chronic Fatigue attack after a shot in October. My doctor says, no more shots for me.

It’s hard to explain to someone how Chronic Fatigue makes you feel. Actually, I don’t think you feel anything. You can’t think, work, do anything, which might include sleep, even though you are thoroughly exhausted!

Today I went to Anthem Authors and we are working on a Memoirs workshop  for the entire Sun City Anthem Community. I am pretty excited about it, and so are the other participants. We each have a specific section to cover, and mine is to explain different ways of starting your memoir.

Would you believe I started mine with a manilla envelope, called Reflections Of Me. It has dates on it, 1993, 1997, 2004, 2006, 2009. In that manilla envelope I stuffed little phrases like, “What Mom said when I was born. Or, 10 years old and we moved, I thought my world was coming to an end. Or, Teen years, I was yanked out of my dreams. How was I supposed to know to be careful what I wished for.”

Little phrases like that so when I actually started to write, I had some place to start. If there is any interest in this, I will share more of it when we have more work done.  Let me know. Send me your comments. I promise to answer as many as I can.

Tomorrow is a big day for us. We are having a bus from the Henderson Senior Center coming to see our collection of kissing couples. They will love it. I was also told a photographer from the local paper will be coming also. When the seniors finish here, they will go off on their bus to lunch. What a nice outing it will be for them. I can’t wait. Will tell you about it tomorrow.

Several of the seniors have supported my Adopt A Caregiver program. They are glad to be involved and they say that writing that email only takes a moment, and they know the caregivers are so grateful to have someone to talk to.

So, give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

One Person Can Make A Difference

One person can make a difference, with a little bit of help.

Adopt A Caregiver: there is nothing to join, nothing to pay.

Caregivers are remaining silent behind their mask.

Together we can make this journey a reality.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt a caregiver, there is one in your community. Find him/her and send an email. Offer to be a friend.

If you want to stand in a new caregivers shoes for a few short hours, read my secret journal, Behind The Mask, published last year.

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Lonely

Do you ever think about caregivers being lonely? They are with someone 24/7, but sometimes the person isn’t really there. Can you imagine what it feels like to be a caregiver?

They have feelings that they can’t express to anyone. Why? Because most people eventually leave them alone. All alone. It becomes uncomfortable, or others just drift away. But the caregiver is there, stuck in the same place.

Always have compassion for others. Stand in their shoes for a little while before you make your decisions. What would you do in their place?

That is what makes Adopt A Caregiver such a good idea. Its the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

If  you don’t know what it’s like to stand in a caregivers shoes, read my secret journal, Beind The Mask available at my website.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

Caregivers Take Care Of You First

If I’ve learned one thing these past few months, it’s that you have to take care of you first, or you are no good to anyone else. I’m into my second week of antibiotics, the bronchitis is getting better, but I am still exhausted. Hard for me to keep my eyes open sometimes.

Nevertheless, the most important thing is to take care of yourself. As much as you can, as often as you can. Try anything, from music to writing, to aromatherapy, hot tea, light a candle, meditate for five short minutes, try something.

I’ve missed reading other people’s blogs in the last couple of weeks, yes, I have much to catch up on, but I’m not quite there yet, and I know myself.I have to get myself better first.

And while you are doing what you can, be aware. Be aware of everything around you. Pay close attention to phone calls, and knocks on your door.Skilled con artists are scamming caregivers and seniors.

In the meantime for the rest of you out there reading this. Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing. Adopt A Caregiver in your own community, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene

My Mirror (My Poem)

My Mirror

I looked in the mirror and what did I see?

Who is this stranger looking back at me?

When did I get this old, and become so bold?

Mirror, mirror speak true to me

And my future, what do you see?

Will I age gracefully?

And be remembered lovingly?

In my mirror, I can see smiles

Yes, I know Im walking my last miles.

But it’s been a wonderful life for me

And the future will be what it will be.

(C) Helene Moore

I’ve been sick all day and that is the best I can come up with today.

Give the gift that lasts forever and costs nothing.

Adopt A Caregiver, and tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene