Talk About Caregivers, But No Solutions

There has been a lot written about caregivers this month in newspapers, because it is National Caregivers Month. I’ve read a lot about caregivers, but no one seems to talk about solutions.

I have a solution: It’s called Adopt A Caregiver. It’s simple, it’s easy, it’s the gift that lasts forever, and costs nothing.

Here is two scenerios: one, everyone lives in a community or belongs to a community. Whether it is home, church, synagogue, school, hi rise building, social club. We all hear things. We hear that so and so just became a caregiver, and it’s such a shame. The shame is doing nothing!

All you have to do is reach out, be a friend, email, offer to listen to let them vent, let them know you won’t judge them, after all, you never stood in their shoes, did you? I did, that’s why I published my book, Behind The Mask. I was a caregive for my husband when he was suddenly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease at age 63! And we had to keep it a secret.

So I started a secret journal, which no one saw. I poured my heart and soul into that jounal, after all, I had no one else to talk to.

Seven long hard years later, the doctor changed his diagnosis. God? Love and kisses? The wonder and magic of love? It all worked.

When I got up enough courage I showed him my journal, and he said publish it. And so I did, this year.

I stood in the caregivers shoes, I know what I’m talking about. These people are alone in ways you can’t imagine. They are scared, worried about the future, about big things, little things, everything.

The second scenerio is find someone who is a caregiver.  Ask around, call a caregivers support group, tell them you want to Adopt A Caregiver, tell them your friend Helene sent you.

Give soemthing back. This should be the year of giving back, and it doesn’t cost anything!

Keep love and kisses in your life. Helene